I don't get it
my older brother stole my laptop out of my room a few times this week and damaged the keyboard on it. He lied about it straight to my face which is to be expected. What I don't get is that my mom wants to stay out of it and my dad orginally wanted to stay out of it because, somehow, Dan has the moral capacity to lie to them while looking right at them. I get mad at them for not seeing the obvious lie that he is telling them but a part of me I think understands the parental complex that is involved. I think that, as a parent, people do not want to believe that their child is able to so easily lie to them about things- aside from their mere social exploits because parents know that their child won't tell them about those in most circumstances- so they just to choose to believe what they hear when in other circumstances they would see it as a lie.
The whole thing has left my mother and I temporarily on non-speaking terms because I want justice and resitution in a situation where I was obviously wronged. My mom doesn't want to believe the obvious, which is Dan stole and damaged my very expensive computer, so she believes that both of are not lying so we should just figure it out for ourselves. The fight my dad and I got into was much worse but didn't last as long. He understands that I can't really afford to pay for the repairs and since he believes my brother is lying about his non-involvement he decided to pay out of pocket for it. This doesn't sit well with me either, because my dad didn't damage my laptop. I don't want him to pay for it, but I need it fixed for school purposes. What it comes back to is how I don't understand how you can lie straight face to your parents, espically about something like this. They tell me it's between me and him. Well I thought about it, and if it's between me and him and I take some sort of action this is what would happen.
First of all, I've lived with Dan for 20.5 years and in that time I've understood it's not like Dan to take ownership of his wrong doings. It's about as likely that Dan says "Sorry, I shouldn't of taken your computer without permission and I will pay for the damages that I made" as it that the Flyers win the cup this year. (I make this comment in November when the team is in last place, if they go on a miracle pace and do win it, well, I need a new analogy). So with that being said, here are the three choices I see and why there not beneficial to act upon:
1. I break something of his that is of atlease equal value. Bad choice, at best my laptop still isn't fixed and that's what I really need. At worse he comes back and breaks something else of mine causing a psuedo-war.
2. I go after him physically. Bad choice, it might make me feel temporarily better. But my laptop isn't fixed. Also, I'm not a voilent guy and will only resort to it when my safety or someone else's safety is at risk, so I'd have trouble stomaching that when the adreline chills out.
3. I steal the money. Although my computer would be fixed, why should I stoop to that level? Stealing is his game, not mine. Ultimately I'm responsible for what I do and no one else. I shouldn't stoop to his level.
I needed to rant and get it out because the whole thing was bothering me. At the same time I've been wanting to get back on this site and "blog" again, so perhaps this will get me started. If I do decide to keep it going and I put up a "real" post about my life I'll put the link back on my "Myspace" and Aim profile.
--Shawn
The whole thing has left my mother and I temporarily on non-speaking terms because I want justice and resitution in a situation where I was obviously wronged. My mom doesn't want to believe the obvious, which is Dan stole and damaged my very expensive computer, so she believes that both of are not lying so we should just figure it out for ourselves. The fight my dad and I got into was much worse but didn't last as long. He understands that I can't really afford to pay for the repairs and since he believes my brother is lying about his non-involvement he decided to pay out of pocket for it. This doesn't sit well with me either, because my dad didn't damage my laptop. I don't want him to pay for it, but I need it fixed for school purposes. What it comes back to is how I don't understand how you can lie straight face to your parents, espically about something like this. They tell me it's between me and him. Well I thought about it, and if it's between me and him and I take some sort of action this is what would happen.
First of all, I've lived with Dan for 20.5 years and in that time I've understood it's not like Dan to take ownership of his wrong doings. It's about as likely that Dan says "Sorry, I shouldn't of taken your computer without permission and I will pay for the damages that I made" as it that the Flyers win the cup this year. (I make this comment in November when the team is in last place, if they go on a miracle pace and do win it, well, I need a new analogy). So with that being said, here are the three choices I see and why there not beneficial to act upon:
1. I break something of his that is of atlease equal value. Bad choice, at best my laptop still isn't fixed and that's what I really need. At worse he comes back and breaks something else of mine causing a psuedo-war.
2. I go after him physically. Bad choice, it might make me feel temporarily better. But my laptop isn't fixed. Also, I'm not a voilent guy and will only resort to it when my safety or someone else's safety is at risk, so I'd have trouble stomaching that when the adreline chills out.
3. I steal the money. Although my computer would be fixed, why should I stoop to that level? Stealing is his game, not mine. Ultimately I'm responsible for what I do and no one else. I shouldn't stoop to his level.
I needed to rant and get it out because the whole thing was bothering me. At the same time I've been wanting to get back on this site and "blog" again, so perhaps this will get me started. If I do decide to keep it going and I put up a "real" post about my life I'll put the link back on my "Myspace" and Aim profile.
--Shawn