Single Life Vs. Married Life. Part I.
America has long been known as the society where the dream is to have a family with 2.5 kids, a dog, and a house with a white picket fence. But is that dream becoming obliterated?
Everywhere I go, people seem to be in pairs. And to many single people that's depressing because they're alone and want nothing more than to be with someone else 24/7.
To me? That's my nightmare.
That's right, folks. I like being single. A lot. Being married and having kids has never been my "American dream." Many people reading this are probably going "Oh you poor thing. You just haven't met the right guy."
Who's to say there IS a right guy? I'm sorry, I don't really buy into that whole one true love thing. If you do, that's fine, I'm not intending to offend. But it's just not something I've ever actually believed. Wanted to believe maybe, but like the idea of God, the concept is just something I can't quite believe in.
For about five minutes after my Goddaughter Rylee was born I wanted nothing more than to find a guy, have kids and buy a house.
Now the very thought makes me shudder. What's so great about being married, honestly? (Again, not trying to offend anyone! I have married friends and I love them very much!)
Okay, so you get tax deductions when you get married. Financially marriage can be nice, I suppose. But quite frankly, I'd rather just have my freedom and independence. If I wanna go see a movie by myself, I don't have to feel obligated to ask my spouse if he wants to come along because I don't have a spouse. I don't have to justify spending fifty bucks on books to anyone, I don't have to clean up after someone else instead of curling up and watching Titanic if I so choose.
I can go where I want, when I want, and do what I want without having to answer to anyone and I love it.
But what about companionship, you ask? There's nothing wrong with having a person in your life if that's what you choose. That aside, isn't that what friends are for? And what happened to being our own best friends anyway? I don't need someone else to take care of. I can do it fine all by myself, thank you.
So no, don't pity me or feel sorry for me. Because your dream may be marriage and children but mine? Consists of writing and travel and just being myself.
Everywhere I go, people seem to be in pairs. And to many single people that's depressing because they're alone and want nothing more than to be with someone else 24/7.
To me? That's my nightmare.
That's right, folks. I like being single. A lot. Being married and having kids has never been my "American dream." Many people reading this are probably going "Oh you poor thing. You just haven't met the right guy."
Who's to say there IS a right guy? I'm sorry, I don't really buy into that whole one true love thing. If you do, that's fine, I'm not intending to offend. But it's just not something I've ever actually believed. Wanted to believe maybe, but like the idea of God, the concept is just something I can't quite believe in.
For about five minutes after my Goddaughter Rylee was born I wanted nothing more than to find a guy, have kids and buy a house.
Now the very thought makes me shudder. What's so great about being married, honestly? (Again, not trying to offend anyone! I have married friends and I love them very much!)
Okay, so you get tax deductions when you get married. Financially marriage can be nice, I suppose. But quite frankly, I'd rather just have my freedom and independence. If I wanna go see a movie by myself, I don't have to feel obligated to ask my spouse if he wants to come along because I don't have a spouse. I don't have to justify spending fifty bucks on books to anyone, I don't have to clean up after someone else instead of curling up and watching Titanic if I so choose.
I can go where I want, when I want, and do what I want without having to answer to anyone and I love it.
But what about companionship, you ask? There's nothing wrong with having a person in your life if that's what you choose. That aside, isn't that what friends are for? And what happened to being our own best friends anyway? I don't need someone else to take care of. I can do it fine all by myself, thank you.
So no, don't pity me or feel sorry for me. Because your dream may be marriage and children but mine? Consists of writing and travel and just being myself.