Love...again?
"Love is a special kind of attitude, with strong emotional and behavioral components. It is also a phenomenon that eludes easy definition or explanation".
Companionate Love- less intense emotion than passionate love. It is characterized by friendly affection and a deep attachment that is based on extensive familiarity with the loved one. It involves a thoughtful appreciation of ones partner. Companionate love often encompasses a tolerance for another's shortcomings along with a desire to overcome difficulties and conflicts in a relationship. This kind of love is committed to ongoing nurturing of a partnership. In short companionate love is often enduring, whereas passionate love is almost always transitory.
Sex in a companionate relationship typically reflects feelings associated with familiarity, especially the security of knowing what pleases the other. This foundation of knowledge and sexual trust can encourage experimentation and subtle communication. Sexual pleasure strengthens the overall bond of a companionate relationship. Although sex is usually less exciting then in passionate love, it is often experienced as richer, more meaningful, and more deeply satisfying (no pun intended).
-Our Sexuality 10th edition.
I think this describes my love. I don't have the sex part (unfortunately) but thats how it would be. It would be like in 100 Girls where he finally has sex with that one chick who has the gum chewing boyfriend. Making faces, laughing, just feeling her out. Softly caressing ever part of her body, holding her, and kissing all the spots you wouldn't pay attention to. (I love foreplay). A deep meaning, but yet playful because I would tease her with pleasure until she couldn't take it. Sensual kisses on the lips, moving to the neck, slow trip around her breasts, stomach, inner thigh and....yada yada yada. Then after, we would spoon embracing each other and still being playful, smiles all the way through. To me this is the best kind sex. Haven't had it yet.. so maybe I don't know what Im talking about, but I would try to make it as close to this as possible. Unless she just wanted to fuck, then all hell breaks loose.(no problem with that)
"Ive been known to fall in Love, but sometime love is just not enough"- City and Colour
I think my purpose on this earth is to help people. I came to this realization the other day while cleaning my room. Help with love, lives, relationships I think. Or maybe just show love to those who haven't found it, or feel as if they will never find it. It is not a myth. Sometimes they are just worried about the outcome, or heartbreak associated with "finding love" but thats part of the process. The part everyone wishes they could skip.
"There is no love just appetite, and its consequences keep you up at night" -Bayside
Sure there's an appetite. An appetite for Intimacy, Proximity, Similarity, Reciprocity. All factors in love. Is this making sense? Does it have some sort of relevance? Im trying to relate things in words anyone can understand, but I don't think my examples/suggestions/comments add to it. That's why Im trying to write more so that I can write clearly, effectively so as to attract readers who share the same affinity for the things I write, turn someone onto something, or just debate. Not just about Love, but Life. The stuff nobody notices, or just takes for granted. I also write because I sometimes find myself learning more about my self and others or just reaching really cool conclusions that make perfect sense. (Active Thinking) Fortunately and Unfortunately my mind never stops. There's the normal stuff like bills, friends, money,gas, material possessions.. It's when I lye in bed, calm, quiet when stuff starts to come. Fantasies at first. (Usually right before I go to bed because the blood rushes out of my head and to my penis.) Lol. Then random thoughts,truths that come together to form a jumbled bunch of thoughts that when rearranged come out to something so beautiful, not only content, but the way they come together is beautiful.
Here is what I am talking about:
It was 11:20PM, on the 8th of October last week when out of nowhere, no particular reason, not mad at anything or anyone, no event leading me to these thoughts, came into my head.
*disclaimer- This is just thought, not meant to hurt anyone, It is total coincidence if you think it involves you in any way. If it involved any of you I would tell you, and made sure you understood.
Why do you put yourself in this situation? Get yourself out of this situation. Thinking about how you will never be in love, man/women it doesn't matter. You will never truly feel loved if this is your attitude. You have to love yourself first, or you will have no love to give to someone else. Only YOU can change YOUR feelings. Nobody is feeling sorry because we have our own problems. Don't worry about the future, live now while you still can, be hopeful for the future not against it. YOU know you don't like thinking about it, so don't. How can you say you'll never find love if you haven't given it a chance? Sure you've had your ups and downs. It happens, don't dwell on it, its not healthy."I've tried, nobody loves me!" Maybe because they don't know how to love you. It's not always your fault. The world doesn't revolve around you. Stop blaming yourself. That might be the reason they chose not to stick it out. I am going to laugh and tell you "I told you so", the day you find that guy/girl who feels the same way, and I hope you have great chemistry, have the best times together both sexually and just out and about. but your always the victim of "love" huh? Tell me love isn't real, its a myth. Tell me you don't "believe" in it. I will prove you wrong. I CAN show you. You have to put your guard down sometimes its part of the process, don't want to be part of it? tough luck because its going to happen. You don't care because you allow yourself not to care. You say you are happy alone? obviously not if you dwell on something so much it affects your everyday train of thought, ultimately depressing you. People know who/what your about and know your capabilities to grow as a person, in love and life. Get past yourself, you have done nothing wrong. You have a lot of "emotional growing " to do. We all do. Bad experience with people? Look past them and use them as reminders, be stronger than that because you are, you just don't know it yet.
"I'm not a smart man, but I know what love is." -Forrest Gump
This quote is me. People may wonder why Im so about love. I feel it is one of the most powerful things we have. It may sound cliche, but think of what we can do if we all just loved a lot more.
I recently did exercise in my Human Sexuality class. I would like you guys to try it too and get back to me. seriously. Take as much time as you need, but do get back to me. I would like to know about my friends more, and be closer to you guys. You will not be judged, I don't do that. Enjoy!
Finish these sentences..
1) It is worth to love because...
2) It is not worth to love because...
3) Write three things you associate with love (connection, butterflies, e.t.c)
4) Write down one word that best describes the one you are/have been in love with.
Im hungry now. I miss everyone.
Companionate Love- less intense emotion than passionate love. It is characterized by friendly affection and a deep attachment that is based on extensive familiarity with the loved one. It involves a thoughtful appreciation of ones partner. Companionate love often encompasses a tolerance for another's shortcomings along with a desire to overcome difficulties and conflicts in a relationship. This kind of love is committed to ongoing nurturing of a partnership. In short companionate love is often enduring, whereas passionate love is almost always transitory.
Sex in a companionate relationship typically reflects feelings associated with familiarity, especially the security of knowing what pleases the other. This foundation of knowledge and sexual trust can encourage experimentation and subtle communication. Sexual pleasure strengthens the overall bond of a companionate relationship. Although sex is usually less exciting then in passionate love, it is often experienced as richer, more meaningful, and more deeply satisfying (no pun intended).
-Our Sexuality 10th edition.
I think this describes my love. I don't have the sex part (unfortunately) but thats how it would be. It would be like in 100 Girls where he finally has sex with that one chick who has the gum chewing boyfriend. Making faces, laughing, just feeling her out. Softly caressing ever part of her body, holding her, and kissing all the spots you wouldn't pay attention to. (I love foreplay). A deep meaning, but yet playful because I would tease her with pleasure until she couldn't take it. Sensual kisses on the lips, moving to the neck, slow trip around her breasts, stomach, inner thigh and....yada yada yada. Then after, we would spoon embracing each other and still being playful, smiles all the way through. To me this is the best kind sex. Haven't had it yet.. so maybe I don't know what Im talking about, but I would try to make it as close to this as possible. Unless she just wanted to fuck, then all hell breaks loose.(no problem with that)
"Ive been known to fall in Love, but sometime love is just not enough"- City and Colour
I think my purpose on this earth is to help people. I came to this realization the other day while cleaning my room. Help with love, lives, relationships I think. Or maybe just show love to those who haven't found it, or feel as if they will never find it. It is not a myth. Sometimes they are just worried about the outcome, or heartbreak associated with "finding love" but thats part of the process. The part everyone wishes they could skip.
"There is no love just appetite, and its consequences keep you up at night" -Bayside
Sure there's an appetite. An appetite for Intimacy, Proximity, Similarity, Reciprocity. All factors in love. Is this making sense? Does it have some sort of relevance? Im trying to relate things in words anyone can understand, but I don't think my examples/suggestions/comments add to it. That's why Im trying to write more so that I can write clearly, effectively so as to attract readers who share the same affinity for the things I write, turn someone onto something, or just debate. Not just about Love, but Life. The stuff nobody notices, or just takes for granted. I also write because I sometimes find myself learning more about my self and others or just reaching really cool conclusions that make perfect sense. (Active Thinking) Fortunately and Unfortunately my mind never stops. There's the normal stuff like bills, friends, money,gas, material possessions.. It's when I lye in bed, calm, quiet when stuff starts to come. Fantasies at first. (Usually right before I go to bed because the blood rushes out of my head and to my penis.) Lol. Then random thoughts,truths that come together to form a jumbled bunch of thoughts that when rearranged come out to something so beautiful, not only content, but the way they come together is beautiful.
Here is what I am talking about:
It was 11:20PM, on the 8th of October last week when out of nowhere, no particular reason, not mad at anything or anyone, no event leading me to these thoughts, came into my head.
*disclaimer- This is just thought, not meant to hurt anyone, It is total coincidence if you think it involves you in any way. If it involved any of you I would tell you, and made sure you understood.
Why do you put yourself in this situation? Get yourself out of this situation. Thinking about how you will never be in love, man/women it doesn't matter. You will never truly feel loved if this is your attitude. You have to love yourself first, or you will have no love to give to someone else. Only YOU can change YOUR feelings. Nobody is feeling sorry because we have our own problems. Don't worry about the future, live now while you still can, be hopeful for the future not against it. YOU know you don't like thinking about it, so don't. How can you say you'll never find love if you haven't given it a chance? Sure you've had your ups and downs. It happens, don't dwell on it, its not healthy."I've tried, nobody loves me!" Maybe because they don't know how to love you. It's not always your fault. The world doesn't revolve around you. Stop blaming yourself. That might be the reason they chose not to stick it out. I am going to laugh and tell you "I told you so", the day you find that guy/girl who feels the same way, and I hope you have great chemistry, have the best times together both sexually and just out and about. but your always the victim of "love" huh? Tell me love isn't real, its a myth. Tell me you don't "believe" in it. I will prove you wrong. I CAN show you. You have to put your guard down sometimes its part of the process, don't want to be part of it? tough luck because its going to happen. You don't care because you allow yourself not to care. You say you are happy alone? obviously not if you dwell on something so much it affects your everyday train of thought, ultimately depressing you. People know who/what your about and know your capabilities to grow as a person, in love and life. Get past yourself, you have done nothing wrong. You have a lot of "emotional growing " to do. We all do. Bad experience with people? Look past them and use them as reminders, be stronger than that because you are, you just don't know it yet.
"I'm not a smart man, but I know what love is." -Forrest Gump
This quote is me. People may wonder why Im so about love. I feel it is one of the most powerful things we have. It may sound cliche, but think of what we can do if we all just loved a lot more.
I recently did exercise in my Human Sexuality class. I would like you guys to try it too and get back to me. seriously. Take as much time as you need, but do get back to me. I would like to know about my friends more, and be closer to you guys. You will not be judged, I don't do that. Enjoy!
Finish these sentences..
1) It is worth to love because...
2) It is not worth to love because...
3) Write three things you associate with love (connection, butterflies, e.t.c)
4) Write down one word that best describes the one you are/have been in love with.
Im hungry now. I miss everyone.