Do men REALLY have feelings?
What usually happens after women go through a bad breakup? Well . . . it usually involves tears, long sob-filled talks with friends, analyzing, wondering what went wrong, lots of chocolate, and ending with a firm vow to never love again. Dramatic, yes . . . but at least we get all the bad emotional vibes out of our systems. Guys, on the other hand, usually just do what they've always done. There are no tearful sob-fests with ANYONE, ESPECIALLY their friends! There's no analyzing, no chocolate, and usually guys figure out that the best way to move on is to get with another woman. Therefore, when women see their ex's just a COUPLE days after a breakup and find them laughing, socializing and partying it up like nothing ever happened in the FIRST place, we have to wonder . . . do men HAVE feelings?
Rumor IS that men do indeed have feelings, they're just used to dealing with them all at once, instead of CONSTANTLY replaying situations like women tend to do. Just think about it--when men have issues with another man, they usually just beat the shit out of each other, and then the problem solves itself and they're cool with each other again. When WOMEN have issues with another woman, there tends to be LOTS of behind-the-back gossiping, ignoring each other, and even IF they get in a fight, they'll still hold a grudge afterward, sometimes even MORE of a grudge than BEFORE the fight. Now, I'm not saying that ALL men and women deal these specific WAYS, but the vast MAJORITY of each species DOES tend to react as such.
So, do men EVER get sad over a breakup? Do they EVER wonder what went wrong? When THEY see their ex for the first time, do they get that nostalgic sinking feeling in the pits of THEIR stomachs? One never knows. Guys like to feel as if they can handle ANYTHING. No matter HOW sweet a guy is or no matter HOW small any guy seems, deep down inside they all want to feel as if they're just a few cards short of being a true, bona-fide bad-ass . . . ESPECIALLY around their friends. So, if guys really do have feelings and they're REALLY hurting over a breakup, they will grieve ALONE, putting their pride before the fear of being labeled as, "The Guy Who Cried."
As for being seen with another girl soon after a breakup . . . it doesn't usually mean ANYTHING. I know this, because I have done it. I broke up with a guy once in the afternoon, and that exact night I got ENGAGED to someone else. I knew deep down I'd never LOVE rebound guy, but I knew I'd miss my ex TERRIBLY if I didn't get TOTALLY distracted by another guy FAST. Plus, I had known rebound guy longer than the guy I had just broken up with, so the idea of getting back together with rebound guy was like returning to something old and familiar with lots of good memories . . . but no love. I eventually came to my senses and broke everything off. Of course, that was two months AFTER I had been with rebound guy, and everyone assumed I had gotten over my ex fast. My point with that sad story is that guys do the SAME thing. Their pride comes before many things, ESPECIALLY the fear of rejection. So, sometimes there's a rebound after a breakup to sooth the rejection and distract them from their true feelings.
As long as there is a heart inside someone, there will be emotions and feelings. And, since all living things have hearts, that HAS to mean that men (who are living things with hearts) DO have feelings. The only difference is in how those feelings are dealt with. It's no big secret that men and women are wired TOTALLY different, which, in SOME cases can be a blessing . . . but in the context of trying to figure each other out, it's definitely a curse. :-P
Rumor IS that men do indeed have feelings, they're just used to dealing with them all at once, instead of CONSTANTLY replaying situations like women tend to do. Just think about it--when men have issues with another man, they usually just beat the shit out of each other, and then the problem solves itself and they're cool with each other again. When WOMEN have issues with another woman, there tends to be LOTS of behind-the-back gossiping, ignoring each other, and even IF they get in a fight, they'll still hold a grudge afterward, sometimes even MORE of a grudge than BEFORE the fight. Now, I'm not saying that ALL men and women deal these specific WAYS, but the vast MAJORITY of each species DOES tend to react as such.
So, do men EVER get sad over a breakup? Do they EVER wonder what went wrong? When THEY see their ex for the first time, do they get that nostalgic sinking feeling in the pits of THEIR stomachs? One never knows. Guys like to feel as if they can handle ANYTHING. No matter HOW sweet a guy is or no matter HOW small any guy seems, deep down inside they all want to feel as if they're just a few cards short of being a true, bona-fide bad-ass . . . ESPECIALLY around their friends. So, if guys really do have feelings and they're REALLY hurting over a breakup, they will grieve ALONE, putting their pride before the fear of being labeled as, "The Guy Who Cried."
As for being seen with another girl soon after a breakup . . . it doesn't usually mean ANYTHING. I know this, because I have done it. I broke up with a guy once in the afternoon, and that exact night I got ENGAGED to someone else. I knew deep down I'd never LOVE rebound guy, but I knew I'd miss my ex TERRIBLY if I didn't get TOTALLY distracted by another guy FAST. Plus, I had known rebound guy longer than the guy I had just broken up with, so the idea of getting back together with rebound guy was like returning to something old and familiar with lots of good memories . . . but no love. I eventually came to my senses and broke everything off. Of course, that was two months AFTER I had been with rebound guy, and everyone assumed I had gotten over my ex fast. My point with that sad story is that guys do the SAME thing. Their pride comes before many things, ESPECIALLY the fear of rejection. So, sometimes there's a rebound after a breakup to sooth the rejection and distract them from their true feelings.
As long as there is a heart inside someone, there will be emotions and feelings. And, since all living things have hearts, that HAS to mean that men (who are living things with hearts) DO have feelings. The only difference is in how those feelings are dealt with. It's no big secret that men and women are wired TOTALLY different, which, in SOME cases can be a blessing . . . but in the context of trying to figure each other out, it's definitely a curse. :-P