Relationships?
Do you find that you tend to date those who are weird, unavailable, or dysfunctional? Do you wonder why you are having such dissatisfying dating experiences? Maybe you're just some kind of "Psycho-creep magnet". The problem is not that you are attracting the wrong people, but that you are accepting the wrong ones. Your challenge isn't to stop attracting the wrong people; it's being able to get rid of them as quickly and painlessly as possible. Now, if it was so easy to find the "right one", we'd all be married or madly in love right now.
It takes a lot of trial and error to get this whole dating/relationship thing right. Yes, men can be cheaters, slackers, players, emotionally unavailable, and shallow. Women can be gold-diggers, crazy, needy, hypercritical, emotionally unstable, and controlling. However, it does not mean that all men/women are this way, nor does it mean that you are doing anything to attract these kinds of people. You attract all kinds of people and some of them will be bad for you. What's important is how long will it take you to figure out the next John/Jane Doe is a mismatch? I think it would be best to stop focusing on "finding the one", and start thinking about how long you are willing to tolerate bad partners/unhealthy relationships. Honestly, it's not his/her fault for being emotionally unavailable/unstable; it's really your fault for dating him/her for many years and expecting him/her to change when you should have moved on.
It takes a lot of trial and error to get this whole dating/relationship thing right. Yes, men can be cheaters, slackers, players, emotionally unavailable, and shallow. Women can be gold-diggers, crazy, needy, hypercritical, emotionally unstable, and controlling. However, it does not mean that all men/women are this way, nor does it mean that you are doing anything to attract these kinds of people. You attract all kinds of people and some of them will be bad for you. What's important is how long will it take you to figure out the next John/Jane Doe is a mismatch? I think it would be best to stop focusing on "finding the one", and start thinking about how long you are willing to tolerate bad partners/unhealthy relationships. Honestly, it's not his/her fault for being emotionally unavailable/unstable; it's really your fault for dating him/her for many years and expecting him/her to change when you should have moved on.