Marriage...continued
People should wait until they are ready to marry to consider a serious relationship. (Having sex, falling in love, getting engaged...any of these)
Often, IMHO, people are running away from something and get married to "start a new life, be a grown up..." Sometimes they are running away from parents, other times from a previous failed relationship. All people, but young people especially, need mature, reliable, trusted supporters who will be honest with them.
Young people need to understand first that they will never know for sure if their intended spouse is "right" for them at that time. Jesus is working on and changing each of us day to day. He makes us better, stronger and wiser all the time. The thing everyone needs to discover and understand is when they, themselves, are ready to marry.
Marrying someone is your own commitment. Are you ready to do whatever it takes forever to simply be a good spouse? Agreeing to marry another is about believing that they will do the same.
Cultivate trust among those who love you that they would know you as well as possible; that from their knowledge of you, they would form a reliable opinion about you and your intended spouse.
Having said that, marriage should be permanent but even the bible recognizes reasons for ending the union.
I object entirely to civil government establishing rules for marriage, marrying or "unmarrying" people and treating married and unmarried people different under the law.
Just some thoughts. :)
Often, IMHO, people are running away from something and get married to "start a new life, be a grown up..." Sometimes they are running away from parents, other times from a previous failed relationship. All people, but young people especially, need mature, reliable, trusted supporters who will be honest with them.
Young people need to understand first that they will never know for sure if their intended spouse is "right" for them at that time. Jesus is working on and changing each of us day to day. He makes us better, stronger and wiser all the time. The thing everyone needs to discover and understand is when they, themselves, are ready to marry.
Marrying someone is your own commitment. Are you ready to do whatever it takes forever to simply be a good spouse? Agreeing to marry another is about believing that they will do the same.
Cultivate trust among those who love you that they would know you as well as possible; that from their knowledge of you, they would form a reliable opinion about you and your intended spouse.
Having said that, marriage should be permanent but even the bible recognizes reasons for ending the union.
I object entirely to civil government establishing rules for marriage, marrying or "unmarrying" people and treating married and unmarried people different under the law.
Just some thoughts. :)