Partner Vision: An Exercise in Clarity & Vulnerability

[xleste]

I was talking to my friend Jon, who mentioned something somewhat audacious and gutsy that his wife did when she wanted to find a partner. She wrote up a “Soul Mate Vision” and THEN she emailed it to everyone she knew. He’d read it even before he went on a date with her so he knew what she was looking to create.

My first reaction was, “SERIOUSLY

Comments

[savorie]

I wrote up a similar list. It helped, a lot. Something about just this process...

I'm glad you envision someone extraordinary. Personally, I'm still pinching myself almost three years later.

[xleste]

Thank you SO much. :)
One of my biggest fears before making this public was people telling me I didn't deserve this or was reaching "too high".

Then I thought, "Well, screw that. When do I NOT reach?" :)

[savorie]

"Too high"?

Ridiculous. With all you have to offer, you could afford to go even higher. The fellow who pings all these traits will be astounded, how lucky he is to have you.

Besides, itemized as it is, it's still just a guideline. We all know you'll look holistically at him, and your forgiving, bendy nature will wind nicely around the right man for you.

[xleste]

SO true.

The last two men I loved did NOT fit stuff on this list, and it didn't matter squat in the loving of the luminous, beautiful human beings they are. Still love them.

Though it did matter in the long-term working-out part!

[auranja]

Then good for you for making it public! I really think that part of getting something is really clearly stating the desire.

I don't think it's "reaching too high." On the contrary! I think you've done a service! I think someone that evolved would be so excited to know that you - with the capacity to appreciate him on all these levels - exist.

[xleste]

Clarity was much more challenging than I anticipated - not that I couldn't find clear things, but finding what my obstacles to articulating clarity was. For example, if I put "smells like garlic", does that mean I might miss out on someone not garlicky? Wait a minute...since when was I willing to compromise on THAT?

Thank you, for the support and encouragement. :)