Mental Health Reflections
During the course of my abbreviated Winter Solstice Weekend, I was Reflecting upon various aspects of Mental Health.
One thing that I was pondering is how incredibly mentally sick people can be, and never, ever even think of going to a (head) Doctor. But if someone has a bit of congestion--which we all know will go away with plenty of rest, ( Read more... )
One thing that I was pondering is how incredibly mentally sick people can be, and never, ever even think of going to a (head) Doctor. But if someone has a bit of congestion--which we all know will go away with plenty of rest, ( Read more... )
I'm either still too sleepy, or I don't recall asking about "why"... I find that Theoretical "Why" questions often lead to avoiding the Pragmatic "How" questions, which must be breached before Change can be made.
That list you gave is a veritable "who's who" of Depressive Thoughts, which is neither news to me nor you ;-)
I am curious what the "BAD" is for you
"Bad" is a memetic placeholder I've used for several years, now. I've recently added the "The" to mock it (deflate its impact and power), because saying "The Bad" just sounds laughable to me. And Laughter is generally Good.
To me, "Bad" and "Good" are relative Dualistic terms. Honestly, I can't really "define" these terms, as they are like "pointers" toward things that I instinctively know. But if I had to put them into words (and thereby muddling the issue), I'd say that "Good" things are "things that I Desire", or my "Towards Values" as they say in NLP. "Bad" things are "things that hinder 'Good' things". Now, as I'm thinking you wanted examples, here's a few things that often (but not always!) find their way into my memetic category of "Bad":
Anger
Indigestion
Depression
Pain
Insomnia
Failure
Hypocrisy
Flaking out
Self-Loathing
Hatred
Ignorance
Here are few things that often find their way into my mental category of "Good":
Laughter
Happiness
Health
Abundance
Awareness
Acceptance
Joy
Love
Success
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Another "flaking out".....I know this issue as we discussed, but on the other end, that person is going through their own deally-o. Like the girl I am seeing.....she felt as if she was being neglected, when I really was having company and pl;umbing issues and buying a piano, and working, and so on. I was not being "flakey" I was doing what I needed to stay ALIVE as I see ALIVE. Again al perception based things and subject to relative interpretation.
Sticky these things aren't they. We can aknowledge them but we are incapable of changing so many of them. Stagnation and inner issues aside.
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Precisely! To try and de-Scribe them in any sort of a "Universally True(TM)" sense is a very common Thinking Error (to use Tx talk).
For instance "sucess". Sucess is measured in it's own way by everyone who has/does not have it.
The fact that these words are relative can be a strength, too. In NLP, they call it "Transformational Vocabulary", and it has to do with our relationship to Words. Specifically, it has to do with how you define words (most often unconsciously).
Without going too in-depth, the term Success is a common one that is analyzed in NLP. Many people feel like total failures in their Life unless they "are Successful". But ask them to define this term, and it becomes a case of "the grass is always greener on the other side", or "I'd be successful if I only had (something just beyond what that person has now)". It's funny, because even CEO's of Fortune 500 companies--who have more than most people could dream about--feel like failures. Most people don't even consciously re-Cognize their own definitions, and then wonder why they feel like failures. During my NLP training, we were asked to define (and then re-define) various words.
It's not a bad Exercise to consciously Define your own Tranformational Vocabulary. Even better, make sure you have a very specific way of knowing when you have achieved these things.
BTW, my favorite definition of a "Good Day" (and certainly as valid as anyone else's) was "every day above ground" ;-)
Another "flaking out".....I know this issue as we discussed, but on the other end, that person is going through their own deally-o. Like the girl I am seeing.....she felt as if she was being neglected, when I really was having company and pl;umbing issues and buying a piano, and working, and so on. I was not being "flakey" I was doing what I needed to stay ALIVE as I see ALIVE. Again al perception based things and subject to relative interpretation.
Yes. But there are things that can help with damage control, too. Rareness of occurrence of the offending behavior is a good one. Promptness of communication and basic 4th Circuit Social Etiquettes can go a looooong way on this, as well--just as a lack of 4th Circuit sensibilities can cause enormous rifts. And there's a big difference betwixt not having water (with all of its inherent stresses) and "not feeling like" meeting your responsibilities when other people are counting on you. But I'll stop before I rant ;-)
Agape!
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