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I asked for another night selfishly knowing he can't really give it and asking for it means lots of driving and time he doesn't have. We both have jobs that demand our time. We aren't living together. I just miss him a lot right now and it sucks because my housemate has just been going on and on about how you shouldn't have to "make something work" and just has such an idealistic view of relationships and I constantly have to defend my relationship to him and it is getting tiring. I am happy and am creating my life, when we have time Zach and I see each other, but you have to put your life first most of the time or it is asking for failure in your relationship because you won't ever have things to talk about or social relationships and hobbies outside of your relationship.
My housemate Andrew's view is that even if someone was perfect, your soulmate, true love, however you want to phrase it, yet they need to devote 3 months a year to travel for work, or just couldn't put the relationship first, then that isn't a perfect match to him. Relationships are so idealistic to him and I guess it is that "true love" stereotype.
I don't know when I became a realist but I am. I don't believe that love is perfect or easy. Over the last three years Zach and I have both helped each other grow, been there through some rough times, and our chemistry and sex life just keeps getting better as we strengthen our personal lives and date for essentially the first time. This is not wrong of me, I am not cheating myself or being cheated because he won't sacrifice his life and re-meld into a couple that has no life outside of each other. This is what we need. Yes, I miss him, and that is why Andrew got to me and instead of enjoying our last bit of time together I was crying and all I wanted to do was stop crying and be kissing him and holding him close for a little longer. It all is okay because we know what we feel for each other and we are finally on healthy paths personally and our relationship needs to adapt but is thriving on the changes.
I wish I could post this on facebook because I am such a woman and I need to hear approval of my thoughts.
My housemate Andrew's view is that even if someone was perfect, your soulmate, true love, however you want to phrase it, yet they need to devote 3 months a year to travel for work, or just couldn't put the relationship first, then that isn't a perfect match to him. Relationships are so idealistic to him and I guess it is that "true love" stereotype.
I don't know when I became a realist but I am. I don't believe that love is perfect or easy. Over the last three years Zach and I have both helped each other grow, been there through some rough times, and our chemistry and sex life just keeps getting better as we strengthen our personal lives and date for essentially the first time. This is not wrong of me, I am not cheating myself or being cheated because he won't sacrifice his life and re-meld into a couple that has no life outside of each other. This is what we need. Yes, I miss him, and that is why Andrew got to me and instead of enjoying our last bit of time together I was crying and all I wanted to do was stop crying and be kissing him and holding him close for a little longer. It all is okay because we know what we feel for each other and we are finally on healthy paths personally and our relationship needs to adapt but is thriving on the changes.
I wish I could post this on facebook because I am such a woman and I need to hear approval of my thoughts.