Good night, well most of it anyway

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So the Dashboard show has now come and gone, and thankfully so did an overall good night with Colleen. The mono fears were discussed before hand and in a sense worked to my advantage, although at the risk of sounding cocky there would have been much making out down down last night had I not be afflicted. You see Colleen has taken to passing me

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[anonymous]

Can I just say, with all sincerity, that I would not move this into the relationship territory. (this is K by the way).

The reason is, she is much younger and less experienced relationship-wise, and you, are older, more mature, more experienced in many ways. Your relationship past has been complicated to say the least, and you have come through. This girl just hasn't been through what you've been through, and you might try and make it so in your mind, it's just not the case - last relationship in high school? chick is like 20?

I am being completely serious Vermelho because I seriously want for you to be in a really strong, really balanced relationship and I just don't think that will happen with this girl - not unless you were friends with her first for a LOOOONNNNG time. Be picky.

So let me just try and strengthen this with a quick, closing example - compare Emilia and this chick. Now I'm not trying to say you should go out with someone just like Emilia, but in terms of maturity/development/experience, Emilia is much more (probably right around) the level you should be with than this girl, despite the fact that she doesn't understand that M. Night Shymalayam is great. People throw around that age shouldn't matter, but I haven't seen a case where it didn't. More years alive = more potential years of experience to learn from.

With that said, I think you should do what you want to do, but don't be afraid to be picky, single, and hold out for someone amazing that really blows your mind (STRICTLY MENTAL SENSE).

[anonymous]

Clearly K has me confused with someone else because I think M. Night is a genius. However, that doesn't mean I have to love every movie he makes and thus I did not love or really like The Village. As far as maturity and experience, yes I have more than young Colleen and yes I agree getting into a relationship with a 20 year old is probably not the best idea, but if you like her and she likes you then you should give it a whirl. Would you want to miss out on something fantastic simply because the chick was 5 or 6 years your junior? Can't you just date a bit see what happens and let the chips fall where they may? It won't necessarily end in disaster. Maybe you date and after 2 months realize her age is a big deal and so you guys break up but remain friends. It could happen!

[anonymous]

Shit - I didn't know you felt that way about M. Night. I stand corrected. One thing I did realize after I wrote my little opinion was that he could have probably described many different types of girls and I would have advised against it - given that i've been in a very "be wary of relationships" mindframe for a while.

With that said though - yes, it could be something fantastic, but I think it's the "hope of possibly fantastic" that can really cloud people's judgement. There is a possibility that colleen is some diamond in the rough, and then there is the more likely possibility that she is an inexperienced, naive, uncertain 20 year old (and I don't say that like it's a bad thing - i mean it more like that's the phase she's possibly getting through right now).

I don't know the extent of their friendship, but I was just assuming that it was still new and fledgling, in which case I would advocate just getting to know each other better, with no agenda of dating or anything - strictly to become friends. But this potential kissing and physicality would quickly disrupt that.