PMA and PHD in Pimpology

[xfreshbreadx]

I do not have much time to get into the musing you so desire about talking with the opposite sex, especially to strangers of the opposite sex. What I find works best is to compliment them and take it from there. The trick though is not to compliment their looks, no no my friend. If a chick is hot she knows it. She need to compliment something

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[anonymous]

Let me start by saying, Vermelho's advice is very very good. That brand of compliment does go a long long way with the ladies. However, let me also say that, although it may be true that Tony doesn't want to do a back flip everytime someone tells him he has nice eyes, I am certain it stills means something to him when he hears it and I am sure it still warms the cockles. And it is the same with women. If you tell her she has beautiful eyes, no matter how many times she has heard it before, it will still get you brownie points. Now this can also be applied to men and for that matter anyone. I know from whence I speak. I myself am extremely charming and fancy myself as being able to charm the pants off a snake. In high school I used to kiss up to all the teachers, compliment them ecetera and you know what they all knew I was kissing ass by telling them how nice they looked but you know what that shit still worked all the same. Still to this day I use this in the business world and privately and I am telling you it is full proof. People love and crave attention, affection and adoration of any sort. And if you don't know now you know. Now all that being said I am not sure what the end goal is. If the boy in need is Big Tall K then I do not believe he is only concerned with getting into women's pants. I think BTK is more concerned with treating a woman with respect and finding that special someone. Let me continue by also saying there are so many variables that go into finding someone to date or even just hook up with that I could not possibly cover all possible outcomes here. Let me also say that if you follow a script for all girls then you may get laid some of the time, maybe, but you are not going to find someone special. When that right person comes along you don't need game, you don't need a schtick you just need to be yourself and the magic will happen all on its own. (cont.)

[anonymous]

That being said to get into tons of women's pants you will need large quantities of alcohol and some percocets. Haha just kidding, well actually that will work as well but somehow I don't think that is what you had in mind. The key to making the ladies wet is confidence. Period. Take whatever tactic you wish, complimenting their eyes, their shoes, their new hairstyle but do so with confidence and they will be yours ah yes they will be yours. Girls don't want a wimpy, wishy washy guy. They want someone who knows what they want and how to get it and knows who they are inside and out. So now you have the confidence working for you phase 2 is to implement Vermehlo's compliment technique followed by my ass kissing technique. Also, be sure you listen, really listen to what they are saying and show interest in the topic no matter how mundane. This also will work on men and in the business world. If she digs you then she continues to talk to you and/or gives you her number and you work from there. If not she ignores you, leaves in a hurry or is flat out rude, who cares you just saved yourself from wasting anymore time on this hoochie mama. If they do like you and give you their number then just keep doing what your doing and things will be fine, you are a funny, intelligent guy so you have the right goods to keep them interested its just a matter of getting past their initial wall or radar. Now if you want to find wifie material I would advise you to seek out girls that you have something in common with. Now I know that if you just see some random chick walking you won't be able to tell but, if she has on lets say a Tenacious D shirt then you know that you have an in. Better still is to seek out these babes in a location that offers some look into their persona a.k.a try to meet girls at a concert for Dashboard Confessionals or the like. This way you know that you both already have a connection and probably will have a few more things in common. The reason these things are important is, most girls have an idea of what sort of guy they would like to date and what sort they would not. So if you just go up to some blonde talking on a cell phone and she sees your dreadlocks and funky clothes she may superficially just reject you without even giving you a chance. This may deflate your ego unnecessarily because one man's trash is another man's treasure. If some dumb ho doesn't like you or accept your dinner invitation she may just be a stuck up snob or you may just not be her type and you can't take that to heart. Just get over it and move on. The law of averages says eventually someone you talk to will think your their type. Once again you can avoid this altogether if you keep your search restricted to girls who you already have something in common with because chances are that thing in common means you are their type. The other keys I can give you is just be honest it goes a long way.

So to review:
1. Be confident; you are BTK and anyone you talk to would be lucky to have you
2. Kiss ass i.e. compliment them, listen, be attentive
3. Be yourself
4. Be honest

One last pointer, which may sound cliched but you know what cliches get to be cliches because that shit is by in large true so fuck all those cliche haters, ok last pointer is always remember "diamonds are a girls best friend." If not diamonds some other thing. In other words gifts. Gifts are key. Even if it is a bag of doritos because you know thats her favorite snack food or a single daisy picked from the garden next to the mall do that shit. Women eat it up baby. I know from whence I speak I am not always warm and fuzzy, in fact some have said you can freeze ice on my chest but damend if I don't melt when someone gives me a gift. LIKE A BIG STICK OF BUTTTTA!!!

[anonymous]

First off, I owe both of you thanks for the helpful advice. I'm curious though - does xinxilla get these things e-mailed to her cell phone or something? Maybe I just don't check as frequently.

Back to the point - the advice was ill, no doubt about it. The reason I was asking in the first place was cuz there's this girl at the climbing gym that I literally JUST want to talk to - but obviously, this is cuz I find her attractive. Now what, you may ask, exactly do I want out of this? In all seriousness - right now I just want to get to know her a lot better and if we click, then it would be cool to be good friends with her. No relationship business right now - I'm just not fully feeling it. But to get from A->B, I have to talk to her and that is where I fail miserably. But now I have been hooked up with how to start things off. This was all supposed to go down yesterday too, but she didn't show up. So now it's onto next thursday to see what happens. I need to dissect and figure out how I exactly I became so afraid to approach girls I don't know. Maybe it's a power trip? If I'm the one starting things off, she's in power at first to shoot me down or not and I have to be ready to win back the upper hand . . . TO SMACK THAT HO WITH! sorry - couldn't resist the joke. But I'm serious about the power struggle. I know (because I know me) that if a girl comes up to me, expressing interest, I will handle it well and respectfully, making sure things go smoothly - I don't want to make things awkward for the one chick every 5 years that comes along expressing interest. She's a statistical anomaly, I should treasure her ass!

So now here's something to think about - the "opening line" that actually starts things off but gives the opener the upper hand, instead of them having to win it back as fast as possible. Something that quickly comes to mind is making a light joke about something stupid/silly the girl might have done - those are the easiest of course, because then you also might get her laughing. But that requires something to happen before. Can it happen independently?

[anonymous]

Xinxilla does not get these sent to her cell phone I am just so bored at work that I check every couple of hours :) I think Mike will have to help with the opening line. I am a fan of the "be friends first, then date philosophy", which I'm sure Vermelho will agree is indicated by my track record. I have never found something someone at a bar said to me interesting, funny or whatever enough to take it to any next level. This chick in your class however does sound like a prime candidate for friendship . . . May the force be with you!