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a friend of mine is pregnant. not a super close friend, but close enough.
she is single, her ex-boyfriend/ the father is a totally manipulative, controlling, and irresponsible asshole.
i feel like my other friends think i'm kind of an asshole for advising her to have an abortion, or even when i try to tell her that she has no idea what having a kid is going to be like for her future (job/ dating/ etc.) or how much it is going to take out of her to be doing it alone. i don't think anyone really gets how much work having a kid is (or how expensive it is) unless they have had one.
i also don't think she wants to be tied to this guy for the next 18+ years, or how it is going to affect her mental state seeing this product of a guy she is still completely fucked up over for the next 18 + years.
she doesn't know what she wants to do, and i can see that its a huge fucked up decision, but it just seems that rationally if she decides not to have a child she can still have one in the future if she wants. on the other hand, if she does have the child, and it turns out to be more than she thinks she can handle alone, then there really isn't the option of changing her mind.
i just try to be a realist about things, and of course i come with a "i don't want children" pro-choice/ pro-abortion agenda as well.
still i just feel like this shit is going to really changer her life in ways she can't even begin to imagine if she goes through with it (and i won't be stupid enough to believe that they will all be negative).
makes me feel like i really need to get on that vasectomy.
well, i guess abstinence is working pretty well too, haha.
she is single, her ex-boyfriend/ the father is a totally manipulative, controlling, and irresponsible asshole.
i feel like my other friends think i'm kind of an asshole for advising her to have an abortion, or even when i try to tell her that she has no idea what having a kid is going to be like for her future (job/ dating/ etc.) or how much it is going to take out of her to be doing it alone. i don't think anyone really gets how much work having a kid is (or how expensive it is) unless they have had one.
i also don't think she wants to be tied to this guy for the next 18+ years, or how it is going to affect her mental state seeing this product of a guy she is still completely fucked up over for the next 18 + years.
she doesn't know what she wants to do, and i can see that its a huge fucked up decision, but it just seems that rationally if she decides not to have a child she can still have one in the future if she wants. on the other hand, if she does have the child, and it turns out to be more than she thinks she can handle alone, then there really isn't the option of changing her mind.
i just try to be a realist about things, and of course i come with a "i don't want children" pro-choice/ pro-abortion agenda as well.
still i just feel like this shit is going to really changer her life in ways she can't even begin to imagine if she goes through with it (and i won't be stupid enough to believe that they will all be negative).
makes me feel like i really need to get on that vasectomy.
well, i guess abstinence is working pretty well too, haha.