Girls and boys: ruminations pt. 1
First, briefly: Vancouver has been loads of fun. It's amazing how much is happening in British Columbia. Hung out with Gua Khee and her friends, almost got to meet Hui Xian but she was camping all weekend :( But at MEC I got a backpack so maybe next time we could go camping tgt HAHA. I really must come back to this lovely place. Met Katherine, a beautiful lady, and Lillian, Ben's cool aunt who's totally not auntie in any way.
(Random thought: border shopping happens all the time. Buffalo premium outlets in the east, South Surrey premium outlets in the west. Thailand and Malaysia? JB and Singapore?)
(OMG LLAMAS!!! I JUST SAW A WHOLE FIELD OF LLAMAS!!! Not with hats though haha. SPEAKING OF WHICH y'all gotta watch this retardedly stupid American tv show called Archer. It's so ridiculously funny hahaha and the style reminds me a lot of Llamas with Hats)
And now on to my main point: this trip, especially more than last year's, has been one of crazy discovery. I'm learning more and more what it means to be independent. I'm inspired by people living out here who have made it for themselves, depend on no one-- and is it even imaginable in my life to be living as a couple but unmarried and even filing separate tax forms? "In life, we are alone," they say, something which I generally resist. But going back to that dependance on the kindness of strangers, despite having lived on my own and having financial independence, I still very much rely on people to fix things for me. Do I want to be the girl in the store asking disinterested (and sometimes bloody incompetent) staff members how to wear a backpack, or do I want to enter the store knowing what a good fit should feel like, knowing what size and roughly what design I want, and being able to make quick and firm decisions? Indecisiveness can be cute, but it's a pain in the arse especially when you've no time to waste. So this girl knows how to research, why isn't she doing it? You don't need excuses to build relationships with people. You can build better relationships by knowing what you want.
(The reason why there are boys in the title is because boys don't seem to behave like the above. Much of these ideas have been bounced off guys, mainly the ones I'm traveling with. It also helps to have guy friends who are impervious to guilt tripping and feminine wiles. Frustrating, but helpful.)
Sigh, sorry if it's disjointed but I guess I'm just addressing my own issues. Anyone else in their 20s and still very much dependent? Let's get out of the club, chicas.
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