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dudes frustrate the hell out of me. my entire life i have been so comfortable and used to having guys for best friends. now that i am around a totally new and different crowd of them, that has changed. since i came back from winter break in january, i have met a ton of awesome people, some of them being dudes.the only problem is that these new guys i'm trying to be friends with assume that because i'm a girl and i show an interest in wanting to hang out with them, i have a crush on them. this is not the case at all. i like these dudes! but they are just as unattractive to me as every single one of my male friends in cleveland. at some point, everyone of my guy friends here has tried to kiss me (besides like two of them). then i feel so awkward when i have to explain to them it is not like that. i feel it puts a real damper on our friendship. i don't want them having ANY of those feelings towards me. i want to be able to tell them when i have a crush on someone without them getting jealous or offended. gaaaah. i never had this problem with my guy friends back home. i probably would have thrown up if dink or madison had put the moves on me! i just don't know how to deal with this problem without it affecting my friendships with these guys.
in reference to dudes i wouldn't mind having a relationship with, i don't know how to date. i have gone out on a couple of dates with guys and enjoyed myself but after the fact, i don't know what to do. they call me for another date or to go to a party but i feel like it is a one sided effort for them because, honestly, i don't know what to do. how often am i supposed to call them? do i call them just to talk? is it ok to go on dates with other people? do i tell them about these dates? how much do i tell them about myself? am i supposed to tell them i have a crush? how long am i supposed to wait before i tell them i have a crush?? geez. i feel like these are all things i should have learned in high school, but dating the same person with the same friends as me kept me from having to learn how to answer these awkward questions.
in reference to dudes i wouldn't mind having a relationship with, i don't know how to date. i have gone out on a couple of dates with guys and enjoyed myself but after the fact, i don't know what to do. they call me for another date or to go to a party but i feel like it is a one sided effort for them because, honestly, i don't know what to do. how often am i supposed to call them? do i call them just to talk? is it ok to go on dates with other people? do i tell them about these dates? how much do i tell them about myself? am i supposed to tell them i have a crush? how long am i supposed to wait before i tell them i have a crush?? geez. i feel like these are all things i should have learned in high school, but dating the same person with the same friends as me kept me from having to learn how to answer these awkward questions.