i believe there's true love that only happens to maybe 1 or 2% of the population. where you're best friends and you've got a comfort level built up to where you can be intimate and still have things be not awkward, it just makes one love the other person even more. that's the love i hope to experience when i get married. so that when i get old and wrinkled, as you say, we'll still have companionship and still be able to sit on the porch on rocking chairs and have nice conversations, even if neither of us are lookers anymore. now THAT is true love. it makes me so happy to see an old couple in public that are holding hands and talking to each other and genuinely enjoying each other's company. they haven't let the stresses of life come between them and the quality of their relationship, and it really gives me hope.
and then i believe there's love, where you find someone who you're rather compatible with albeit a few spats might occur every now and then. and you can still be intimate with them, it's just not as.. smooth of a transition as those in true love. and sometimes, love just doesn't work out. and that's ok.
i think the majority of couples getting married that divorce within 1-2 years are in love, but don't want to even try to make it work. and then there are just the stupid fucks who are lusting after each other but are like OMFG WE LOVE EACH OTHER SO MUCH and get married. see, mr. bush, THERE'S the ones you should be goign after concerning the "sanctity of marriage." it pisses me off to no end when britney spears can be married for 55 hours and no one says anything about HER destroying the sanctity of marriage, but if you're gay, OH NO.
but that's another excessively long comment for another day. :P
Re: love, you say?pipsqu3akJune 24 2004, 04:24:39 UTC
I think that true love develops over time as we learn to trust another person with our life/emotions/soul, but I think it is totally unrealistic to think that any ONE person can fulfill your needs for love and affection. Which is why there are so many types of love and friendship is so necessary. Perhaps the stresses of life - lived out with your mate - is one of the many things that make love true. I also think that each person has to be complete on their own before a serious relationship. There has to be enough security in who you are as a person and what you can bring to another person's life.
Love, although it may start as lust, turns into something entirely different when you learn that it is the inner beauty of a person that is what is MOST important. I think you stop seeing the flaws in a person's physical being or maybe you actually see the flaws as sweet imperfections that make that person unique and human. Wrinkles maybe look like "badges of honor", the evidence of endurance through everything. I'm thinking that true love, frozen in a moment of time, is when you see your mate for who they really are, along with all their flaws, and you think...I'm HOME (completely melded together with you). I think that when my wife has bore our children, that even the physical evidence of that will be beautiful to me.(stretch marks and all) ...and Luke, you are amazing in your depth and intellectual understanding of a variety of subjects, especially those that have to do with human emotion. Sorry for the extremely long post and for being anonymous...I know it pisses you people off, but saying who I am would only confuse things for me and for others.
and then i believe there's love, where you find someone who you're rather compatible with albeit a few spats might occur every now and then. and you can still be intimate with them, it's just not as.. smooth of a transition as those in true love. and sometimes, love just doesn't work out. and that's ok.
i think the majority of couples getting married that divorce within 1-2 years are in love, but don't want to even try to make it work. and then there are just the stupid fucks who are lusting after each other but are like OMFG WE LOVE EACH OTHER SO MUCH and get married. see, mr. bush, THERE'S the ones you should be goign after concerning the "sanctity of marriage." it pisses me off to no end when britney spears can be married for 55 hours and no one says anything about HER destroying the sanctity of marriage, but if you're gay, OH NO.
but that's another excessively long comment for another day. :P
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Love, although it may start as lust, turns into something entirely different when you learn that it is the inner beauty of a person that is what is MOST important. I think you stop seeing the flaws in a person's physical being or maybe you actually see the flaws as sweet imperfections that make that person unique and human. Wrinkles maybe look like "badges of honor", the evidence of endurance through everything. I'm thinking that true love, frozen in a moment of time, is when you see your mate for who they really are, along with all their flaws, and you think...I'm HOME (completely melded together with you). I think that when my wife has bore our children, that even the physical evidence of that will be beautiful to me.(stretch marks and all)
...and Luke, you are amazing in your depth and intellectual understanding of a variety of subjects, especially those that have to do with human emotion. Sorry for the extremely long post and for being anonymous...I know it pisses you people off, but saying who I am would only confuse things for me and for others.
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