Out of the bloody loop AGAIN! *snipped from UKP*
Aaaaarrggh.
Why is it so hard for my family to keep me in the friggin loop?
My Gran has a brother Jimmy. He calls up to see my gran 2-3 times a week. I would see him maybe once a week. Sometimes its less because its ususally just a matter of bumping into him when Im down seeing my gran.
He has a wife, who about 4 years ago had a stroke, and as a man in his eighties, he had to put her into a nursing home as he could not give her the care she needed at home. However he is devoted to her. He visits every day. Sometimes he spends the entire day there, staying for his lunch and dinner and helping her into bed at night. When we meet we always have a chat about her. He tells me how she's doing and what she enjoys. He likes talking about her.
This morning I was going to head down to my dads office to do the vat for the quarter for him when I get a phone call. Its dad. "dont come down this morning" he says... "I'm going to a funeral". Funeral thinks me? I'm wondering who has died. So naturally, I ask. "Its your aunt Ellie." He says "She died two days ago and your mum called me last night to let me know, so I thought I should go."
I am furious. Why did my mum not tell me? I mean ok. I dont see my mum often, but ffs! She called me 4 times yesterday to make sure I was going to my grans to give her the meds (monday is not my normal night to go). Why didnt she tell me then? How much of a dick would I have looked sometime next week if I'd met Jimmy and asked after his wife? He would have expected me to know! I am so fed up with this shit. It happens all the bloody time. Like when mum was going on friggin holiday the last time, I found out 2 days before she fucked off for 2 weeks! Is there something about me that makes her think I shouldnt be told these things? I'm so bloody angry right now and... I think I'm hurt too. Its like when my other uncle died on my mums side. This was a man again, I hadnt seen in years, but I spent summers in his house as a kid with my cousins.. when did I find out? AFTER the funeral. WEEKS after the funeral. I think he'd been burried about 2 months before I knew. What is her problem?!