this is gonna turn into my rant heap place, i just know it XD;
20-year-old sister who, might I add, is with job, car, and has a cool party, bed and breakfast, and trip to Santa Cruz planned for birthday:
What do you MEAN all you can afford for my birthday is a cinnabon? Can't you take me out to eat somewhere? Can't you ask your sponsor for money to take me out??
Jobless sister who couldn't even afford shit to do on her own birthday:
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this is the same gal, by the way, who called me up crying about how she's too selfless and in the end she ends up damaging herself because she cares too much about others.
when i asked her for details so i could console her, i basically took from the conversation that she was sad because she's not the center of attention at work anymore. ._.;;
i love her, but then she has these moments of the worst entitlement you could see in a person. and i can't even tough love her out of it just because her ego's so fucking fragile. it just made me ill how she started getting demanding that i spend more money when she knows how fucked i am with my current financial situation. (like, about to be evicted.) and then she has the gall to tell me to ask my sponsor for money so i can take her out. for her birthday that she's already putting out all the stops for. after knowing i couldn't even do shit for my own bday because i was too damn poor. but somehow i have extra money laying around to pamper her for hers?
my sponsor is my emergency funds. when i do receive donation in the form of food or money, it's because i'm goddamned strapped for it. and it's most often by his offer, and usually it's the item i intended to buy instead of just greenbacks. i don't 'ask' him for straight-up spending money unless i absolutely NEED it, and when i do, i pay him back, unless he specifically states it's a gift.
god, if there's anything to be noted about adulthood, it's realizing that shitty people don't just exist in the world. they're the people who tell you they care.