It is very difficult at times to ignore events that were told to you by the people you care about, regardless of the fact that you may not have been there to actually witness it. Furthermore, when others you care about have additional separate complaints about the perpetrator, it only brings you closer to believing what had happened was more towards fact than just gossip. When the perpetrator writes an apology letter that you read, then you can only come to the conclusion that he/she did commit the crime; therefore judging that individual based on circumstantial evidence is appropriate. Yes, it may be difficult for everyone to move on but in most cases, the victim will suffer more than the perpetrator. I cannot condemn anyone for continuing the way they feel about your friend. Try to remember that there is a difference between gossip and warnings. When people that I care about come in contact with your friend for the first time, it is only right for me to warn them of the reputation your friend made for himself/herself. Some of my friends may be a little young and naive so it is only in their safety and well-being that I deliver such warnings. I only care deeply for my friends and I will never stop looking out for them. Wouldn't you do the same?
I agree with AndyRak. There is no easy way out. When you do something wrong, you just have to man up and suffer the consequenses. Forgive me if I have no sympathy to offer.
I cannot condemn anyone for continuing the way they feel about your friend. Try to remember that there is a difference between gossip and warnings. When people that I care about come in contact with your friend for the first time, it is only right for me to warn them of the reputation your friend made for himself/herself. Some of my friends may be a little young and naive so it is only in their safety and well-being that I deliver such warnings. I only care deeply for my friends and I will never stop looking out for them. Wouldn't you do the same?
I agree with AndyRak. There is no easy way out. When you do something wrong, you just have to man up and suffer the consequenses. Forgive me if I have no sympathy to offer.
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