Sex and Love
I’ve been pondering something lately and wondering where I fit in in the big scheme of things. Actually, I’m wondering if I even fit in at all.
It concerns love and sex, two things that generally go hand in hand. The world seems to be divided into two types of people, those interested in adventurous sexual encounters and those interested in loving relationships. I’d have to say the majority fall into the latter category. The former are what is generally known as “kinky.”
I don’t really know where I fit in, because, although I’m very kinky and open minded, I also value a loving relationship. I guess I’m wondering why the two-kink and love-seem to exclude one another.
I’ve known some wonderfully loving and supportive people in my life and have even been loved by a few of them, but have always felt like some sort of abnormal pervert around them. Most of the times, I just keep my desires to myself to avoid being judged like that.
I’ve also known some kinky and adventurous people in my life. The problem with them is that they’ve shown little concern for my feelings and have cared little about me other then using me for their own pleasure. At its best, a relationship with a kinky person is an exchange of pleasures. At its worst, it’s being lied to and used by someone.
This is where I get left out. I want both. Unfortunately, the people who also want both and have the same sense of sexual adventure that I do are extremely rare. Kinky people seem satisfied with simple physical pleasure and loving people seem shocked by my sexual tastes.
The obvious question is ‘where are the kinky people who are willing to love?’ but there’s another more worrying question, ‘am I actually one of those people who isn’t very loving, isn’t very supportive who selfishly uses others for my own pleasure? I know I don’t want to be and I know I try to be loving and supportive when it’s desired, but have I ever actually succeeded in being that?
It concerns love and sex, two things that generally go hand in hand. The world seems to be divided into two types of people, those interested in adventurous sexual encounters and those interested in loving relationships. I’d have to say the majority fall into the latter category. The former are what is generally known as “kinky.”
I don’t really know where I fit in, because, although I’m very kinky and open minded, I also value a loving relationship. I guess I’m wondering why the two-kink and love-seem to exclude one another.
I’ve known some wonderfully loving and supportive people in my life and have even been loved by a few of them, but have always felt like some sort of abnormal pervert around them. Most of the times, I just keep my desires to myself to avoid being judged like that.
I’ve also known some kinky and adventurous people in my life. The problem with them is that they’ve shown little concern for my feelings and have cared little about me other then using me for their own pleasure. At its best, a relationship with a kinky person is an exchange of pleasures. At its worst, it’s being lied to and used by someone.
This is where I get left out. I want both. Unfortunately, the people who also want both and have the same sense of sexual adventure that I do are extremely rare. Kinky people seem satisfied with simple physical pleasure and loving people seem shocked by my sexual tastes.
The obvious question is ‘where are the kinky people who are willing to love?’ but there’s another more worrying question, ‘am I actually one of those people who isn’t very loving, isn’t very supportive who selfishly uses others for my own pleasure? I know I don’t want to be and I know I try to be loving and supportive when it’s desired, but have I ever actually succeeded in being that?