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[x_dig_me_x]

so i just had a three hour long AIM fight with my boyfriend because:

he doesnt understand why im not okay with him hanging out with his CRAZY ex girlfriend. who still loves him... three years later.

yeah. am i crazy for that not being alright?

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[quendalin]

Yeah I don't think you're acting crazy or anything. I agree with the above statement:

"it doesn't really matter it it's 'okay' or 'valid' for you to feel the way that you do about this situation - the fact is, you feel this way. period."

and if that's the way you feel Bo should understand it. A similar thing happened to me in reverse. John didn't like the fact that I still hang out with and talk to Matt. I explained that there's nothing he has to worry about.. which really there isn't. I'm not trying to work in reverse in my life. But after he hang out with Me, Matt, and some mutal friends, he understand now. He doesn't feel threaten. But Matt has also moved on. He doesn't love me anymore, and I don't love him anymore either. So that element isn't added.

Its a sticky situation from any angle. IF you all want to compromise I'd say hang out with her once and give it a chance. BUT not with just you bo and her. Make sure there's other people there. That way all don't have to only talk to each other. you have options. If he gives her tooo much attention then I"d be pissed.. lol

good luck with it all.

[x_dig_me_x]

yeah i know- thats the statement i felt for a long time but after talking to a few opeople and through this LJ post... i got over it cause i knew i wanst wrong in feeling how i was.

their history is a LOT more complex i think than yours and matts... a lot from what i understand of it. i dont really ask many questions and maybe thats part of my problem... he tells me a lot though regardless. i saw john and matt around you... it was scary kinda :)