Bazooka loaded and ready to fire
The other night, I was still in the office doing some follow-up work and filings. Some of it was not too urgent and can be done next day, but I felt like finishing it up so I didn't have to give a damn about it next day. Anyways, I got an sms from an old friend whom I had not seen/spoke to in a long while asking me for assistance on their grammar. Reading the sentence that was to be corrected, I noted that it was just a personal message rather than anything of importance, hence I decided to leave it until I got home from work before I reply. That time it was 9pm, and I was tired since I started work since 8.30am till then, AND, I had a particularly bad week at work.
20-30 minutes later, person sent me another sms asking me if I'm already asleep.
What. The. Fuck?
Seriously, I hate it when people take it as though their issue is the most important thing of the moment to warrant immediate attention. Had it been a work related event, I would've empathised. But for a silly personal matter? I have no obligation to attend to it especially when I am engaged in other pressing matters. It is infuriating when people don't reply to your messages ASAP, but people ought to figure out that others have a life of their own to work on first before they can dilly-dally around with other people's issues.
Another reason to my anger was based on my past dealings with this person. I had a number of times where I sent an sms and it remained un-replied. I was not too happy about it, but I took it with a pinch of salt since I understand that people are probably busy, and that they don't owe me a response. It was after all, a casual matter than of any importance. However when I get this sort of reaction for a moment where I didn't reply back soon enough, it gets me riled up. Seriously, I don't owe people anything, and I certainly don't exist just to fulfil every whims and needs of others.
Same goes for some of my online experiences with numerous people. Often times I go afk unannounced, and it won't be long till I have people whining about how I don't care about them. Dude, you're in an online community. People are chatting through a screen and keyboard. And like every other normal real life conversations, there are always environmental distractions around you which are potentially disrupting. So really, I really don't see any reasons why I need to sit and stare at the monitor every second just to check if the other party had responded to me. Also, online people are not my RL friends, so no matter how close I get to them, I will put online people second on my priority list when it comes to correspondence.
So moral of story, if one wishes to have someone who would worship and devote their attention to him/her at every second, then I'm not the one for that task. Because frankly, I have no interest in pleasing others.
20-30 minutes later, person sent me another sms asking me if I'm already asleep.
What. The. Fuck?
Seriously, I hate it when people take it as though their issue is the most important thing of the moment to warrant immediate attention. Had it been a work related event, I would've empathised. But for a silly personal matter? I have no obligation to attend to it especially when I am engaged in other pressing matters. It is infuriating when people don't reply to your messages ASAP, but people ought to figure out that others have a life of their own to work on first before they can dilly-dally around with other people's issues.
Another reason to my anger was based on my past dealings with this person. I had a number of times where I sent an sms and it remained un-replied. I was not too happy about it, but I took it with a pinch of salt since I understand that people are probably busy, and that they don't owe me a response. It was after all, a casual matter than of any importance. However when I get this sort of reaction for a moment where I didn't reply back soon enough, it gets me riled up. Seriously, I don't owe people anything, and I certainly don't exist just to fulfil every whims and needs of others.
Same goes for some of my online experiences with numerous people. Often times I go afk unannounced, and it won't be long till I have people whining about how I don't care about them. Dude, you're in an online community. People are chatting through a screen and keyboard. And like every other normal real life conversations, there are always environmental distractions around you which are potentially disrupting. So really, I really don't see any reasons why I need to sit and stare at the monitor every second just to check if the other party had responded to me. Also, online people are not my RL friends, so no matter how close I get to them, I will put online people second on my priority list when it comes to correspondence.
So moral of story, if one wishes to have someone who would worship and devote their attention to him/her at every second, then I'm not the one for that task. Because frankly, I have no interest in pleasing others.