avoidance
Didn't really want to check my email this morning because I didn't want to read whatever the jerk ebay guy might have written now. Didn't want to leave it for discovering after work either, to whatever did last week, can't even remember if that was still this, or the last idiot. I run into so many of these nasty people it must seem like no one is ever decent. That's not the case; I've worked with some very nice sellers, and more than the idiots, truth be told. But I run into far higher a proportion of rude and unreasonable people than seems right. One could say then that it must be something in me and the way I act, but then how come all those nice sellers think and say I'm so nice too? So as much as I'm quick to be down on myself, I think it's fair to say I'm not bad at all to deal with for these kinds of things unless the seller starts being rude first. As much as I don't always assume the best of people, I really don't act on that until I'm shown that the person is deserving of the assumption. And too many are, hence my having learned that there's a good possibility assuming the worst is not pessimistic but only realistic.
Mom had said last night that if he wrote anything nasty again, SHE would have some choice words for him. So, I made my windows really small so I could only see the email header and not the message, and forwarded it to her. I'll consider reading it later, or I'll let her tell me what he said. I don't really want to read it/let it be directed at me.
I guess it sounds like I'm really just piling more onto her instead of taking things off of her. I don't really know. Writing an email isn't a time-consuming thing, it doesn't stress her quite the same way it does me after I hit my breaking point with it, and she expressed desire to say something back to this person. I'm still not really sure if I'm taking any work off of her or not. I feel like my working is enabling us to do things we wouldn't have gotten done at all without my time doing them. She's stated that herself, to someone else, with no prompting. But... the point was to free her up from at least some of the hours she has to spend working, and I'm not sure that's happening. Last Sunday, yes, she was able to do paperwork in the back of the store because Dad and I worked the front, and that is work she didn't have to do after hours. I hope things like that can happen more. And then I won't feel as bad if there's some trade-off, like saying, ok, I dealt with this jerk ebay guy up to this point, and now I need to hand it over to you to respond to his latest. I'm still the one that will be doing all the dispute forums if it has to go that direction, but at least... maybe she can handle this response.
I did request his contact info from ebay, also, just in case there's any reason to think a phone call would work this out. I don't really want to talk to him. He doesn't seem to want to treat me as a person experiencing real frustration with another party (FedEx, not him, up till this last letter), as opposed to some scam artist. Which makes me mad, because I could have treated him the same way, and I didn't, only to get it back at me. The request goes to both parties when requested by one, so he'll know that I requested, and who knows what he'll say to that... if he'll object to the idea that I might be preparting to contact him by phone for more "harassment" or something. I don't know.
All I know is that at least I don't have to dread coming back from work this evening to nasty email, unless he decides to send something before getting a response. Hopefully not, but it would be just like my luck, to take a pre-emptive measure to avoid something happening, and still have the thing happen anyway. Happens all the time. Hopefully not this time. We still have an issue to deal with with this person, so blocking his email isn't really a good option at this time. When it's over though, I probably will, because I'll have no desire to hear from him or deal with him ever again.
Have to change clothes for work now.
Mom had said last night that if he wrote anything nasty again, SHE would have some choice words for him. So, I made my windows really small so I could only see the email header and not the message, and forwarded it to her. I'll consider reading it later, or I'll let her tell me what he said. I don't really want to read it/let it be directed at me.
I guess it sounds like I'm really just piling more onto her instead of taking things off of her. I don't really know. Writing an email isn't a time-consuming thing, it doesn't stress her quite the same way it does me after I hit my breaking point with it, and she expressed desire to say something back to this person. I'm still not really sure if I'm taking any work off of her or not. I feel like my working is enabling us to do things we wouldn't have gotten done at all without my time doing them. She's stated that herself, to someone else, with no prompting. But... the point was to free her up from at least some of the hours she has to spend working, and I'm not sure that's happening. Last Sunday, yes, she was able to do paperwork in the back of the store because Dad and I worked the front, and that is work she didn't have to do after hours. I hope things like that can happen more. And then I won't feel as bad if there's some trade-off, like saying, ok, I dealt with this jerk ebay guy up to this point, and now I need to hand it over to you to respond to his latest. I'm still the one that will be doing all the dispute forums if it has to go that direction, but at least... maybe she can handle this response.
I did request his contact info from ebay, also, just in case there's any reason to think a phone call would work this out. I don't really want to talk to him. He doesn't seem to want to treat me as a person experiencing real frustration with another party (FedEx, not him, up till this last letter), as opposed to some scam artist. Which makes me mad, because I could have treated him the same way, and I didn't, only to get it back at me. The request goes to both parties when requested by one, so he'll know that I requested, and who knows what he'll say to that... if he'll object to the idea that I might be preparting to contact him by phone for more "harassment" or something. I don't know.
All I know is that at least I don't have to dread coming back from work this evening to nasty email, unless he decides to send something before getting a response. Hopefully not, but it would be just like my luck, to take a pre-emptive measure to avoid something happening, and still have the thing happen anyway. Happens all the time. Hopefully not this time. We still have an issue to deal with with this person, so blocking his email isn't really a good option at this time. When it's over though, I probably will, because I'll have no desire to hear from him or deal with him ever again.
Have to change clothes for work now.