brain-ramblings that keep me awake; thoughts on shyness and introversion.

[wyndhover]

I am a grumpykins today 'cos of lack of enough sleep, so I figured I might as well get something out of it by posting some of the stuff that my inexplicably hyperactive brain went over last night. Don't expect a point here, btw, just ramblings of a tired mind

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[scwizard]

I watched a show years back that suggested that shyness had a biological component that was genetically passed on.
That doesn't mean that you can't change if you want to change.

I've missed job interviews
This is where it crosses over into a disorder, when it's interfering with your ability to do such things.

And I've learned how to 'do it anyway', even when I'm scared. Sometimes.
A disorder you're fighting against and from the sound of things winning against.

I'm not shy, and I think in my case the reasons I turned out like that are largely developmental. When I was young I asked a lot of questions (I still ask a lot of questions), and my parents told me that that was a great thing and that I should keep asking questions. If they had told me otherwise I might have wound up ashamed to speak out and ask questions (because I was subsequently told by everyone else that it was a bad thing that I shouldn't do). As I got older my parents enrolled in a children's theater, which made me very comfortable with public speaking. When I was in middle school, this one deli made this delicious sandwich called a "chopped cheeseburger." However there was no orderly line to order them at that deli, if you wanted one you have to push your way to the front of the line and raise your voice. Faced with the choice to either learning to speak up, or to not get the delicious lunch I wanted, I decided to speak up.

My little brother on the other hand was never enrolled in a children's theater, and he asked me to buy his chopped cheeseburgers for him (he told me that there was a language issue, that the Hispanic deli people couldn't understand his English and he couldn't understand their English). On the other hand, I don't recall him ever asking such a good many questions either, so that bit might have been genetic.