Project Revision: Free Fall. Part X. Padmé, Obi-Wan, Anakin, OC.

[wyncatastrophe]

Author's note: So this is a revised version of a draft my f-list saw several days ago. I have left the Padmé opening as it was, largely thanks to the timely advice of

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Ouch

[chameleon_irony]

thanks to the timely advice of chameleon_irony, to whom I owe thanks for her insights

This is incredibly awkward, but... *is not a she*

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[wyncatastrophe]

Oh, sorry! That is a totally heteronormative and also sexist assumption. I'm so used to other fanficcers identifying as women that I did not even think about it! That was wrong of me, and I apologize. Let me rectify the situation as much as I can by editing the entry. Would you prefer "his," "zir," or some other pronoun?

[ETA: I went ahead and changed it to "the insights," just so that it doesn't still say "her." I'll change it again once you let me know your preferred pronoun. How incredibly awkward of me! As if, after all this time in a field that studies gender, I have any excuse for not knowing any better! I really do apologize! *embarrassed*]

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[chameleon_irony]

It's OK. I don't blame you for not knowing what I've never said. Some people make their gender identity the center of their self-concept, but I'm closer to the other extreme. I don't think gender has much relevance in making people who they are, so I tend not to talk about mine.

Until recently, I had convinced myself I really was a woman, but denial doesn't last forever, especially when you're learning psychology. I'm FtM. So it's "he", except in real life where I pretend, for career's sake, to be what I appear to be (female).

ETA: seems comment notifications (both email and LJ Inbox) are down again.

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[wyncatastrophe]

Comment notifications are down - I know estora is experiencing the same problem.

Thank you for being so understanding. Even if you've never pointed it out, it is totally not fair for me to make that kind of assumption - just because most ficcers perform their gender as women, that still does not absolve me of the responsibility to acknowledge that not all of them are, or want to be.

It's an interesting point you make about gender. I think my sister would probably agree with you, re: not important to identity. And yet, for me, it has been very formative - being identified as a woman every time I show my face in public has had a literally incalculable on my sense of self-in-relation-to-others; it makes a big difference in my daily life. I'm not saying that this is always a negative difference, but on a day-to-day level the way I am treated by other women (let's not even start) and the way I am treated by men (it varies, but notice that my father-in-law refers to me as "Little Miss Pretty") does impact what I expect going into a social

[chameleon_irony]

I don't care how you say it as long as you don't say "her". I would hate for people to be misled.

[wyncatastrophe]

Good enough. :)