cuffs
One thing I didn't write about that happened my Halloween weekend visit deserves it's own entry I think. Mostly because, being me, I have a lot to say about the subject. Including some things that don't really fit in with the "weekend with the Wykds" post. Saturday evening Ms Kat had me wear my pink "handcuffs", the ones in the above icon. As we were getting ready to play she told me to put on my cuffs. She commented it was too bad we didn't have pink ones to coordinate with the pink in my skirt. I told her I had some pink cuffs that were linked together permanently, and she told me to wear those instead when I showed them to her.
I was already dressed, but had not eaten yet when I put them on. It was an interesting experience to eat and later go to the bathroom wearing these cuffs. The connecting chain is long enough to be comfortable but not really long enough to make it easy to do stuff. I found myself very aware of everything I did and the position of my hands, especially when I would turn to the side and reach for my glass to drink from. Surprisingly enough I didn't find it terribly awkward and actually began to enjoy the challenge. I definitely felt like "the pet" having my movement restricted that way.
Cuffs are very powerfully symbolic to me. Once upon a time my at home "uniform" consisted of my cuff set (wrist, ankle and collar) and nothing else. I eventually got more comfortable being naked but I was always self conscious of the jingling sound they made with every movement, especially when I would walk. I could hold the O-rings on the wrist cuffs but I never found a way to quiet the ankle cuffs and at times I felt like a belled cat, my every move and location announced.
A playmate I played with a couple of years ago appreciated the symbolism of cuffs too. Before we would play together, after I was undressed, he would buckle them on me. They stayed on until after our scene and aftercare was finished. Then he would remove them. He was not a Dom, or at least not interested in Dominating me, he was just interested in the scene, the "Dom space" he could find playing me. But when he put the cuffs on me, the dynamic changed. Then he was the Dom and I was his sub. I won't say the mere act put me in subspace, but it definitely changed my attitude as well as his. Once they came off we were back to friendly playmates-he wasn't interested in commanding me or having me serve him.
It's really a small thing. But very powerful. It's often the little things that can make a huge difference...the difference between feeling your role and merely playing it. Ms Kat telling me to put the cuffs on changed our dynamic. We went from girlfriends to Domme and sub. I really appreciated her doing this - because we don't have the same relationship as Master Wolffe and I, it was very helpful to me to have that kind of dividing line. I always respect her and do anything she asks of me, but the cuffs clearly said that now we were assuming different roles and that changed the way I reacted and the way I was tuned into her...it's hard to really explain.
The past weekend when I visited as a surprise for Ms Kat she did the same thing. Saturday afternoon when we began getting ready for play time she had me put the pink cuffs on again. When I did, my focus changed. I didn't wear them as long this time due to what the first part of our play involved, but even wearing them for a short time helped me begin reacting to her a little differently and made the bondage she did later all the more powerful.
Even when Master Wolffe has me wear my cuffs it makes a difference for me. I'm always his sub. I'm always awaiting his command and always at his beck & call. But when I wear my cuffs for him I am more deeply aware of it. I feel like a kept pet, something to be restrained (even if only symbolically as the unconnected cuffs do) and decorated for his pleasure. It doesn't mark a change in roles for us, but it does make me feel more submissive.
I was already dressed, but had not eaten yet when I put them on. It was an interesting experience to eat and later go to the bathroom wearing these cuffs. The connecting chain is long enough to be comfortable but not really long enough to make it easy to do stuff. I found myself very aware of everything I did and the position of my hands, especially when I would turn to the side and reach for my glass to drink from. Surprisingly enough I didn't find it terribly awkward and actually began to enjoy the challenge. I definitely felt like "the pet" having my movement restricted that way.
Cuffs are very powerfully symbolic to me. Once upon a time my at home "uniform" consisted of my cuff set (wrist, ankle and collar) and nothing else. I eventually got more comfortable being naked but I was always self conscious of the jingling sound they made with every movement, especially when I would walk. I could hold the O-rings on the wrist cuffs but I never found a way to quiet the ankle cuffs and at times I felt like a belled cat, my every move and location announced.
A playmate I played with a couple of years ago appreciated the symbolism of cuffs too. Before we would play together, after I was undressed, he would buckle them on me. They stayed on until after our scene and aftercare was finished. Then he would remove them. He was not a Dom, or at least not interested in Dominating me, he was just interested in the scene, the "Dom space" he could find playing me. But when he put the cuffs on me, the dynamic changed. Then he was the Dom and I was his sub. I won't say the mere act put me in subspace, but it definitely changed my attitude as well as his. Once they came off we were back to friendly playmates-he wasn't interested in commanding me or having me serve him.
It's really a small thing. But very powerful. It's often the little things that can make a huge difference...the difference between feeling your role and merely playing it. Ms Kat telling me to put the cuffs on changed our dynamic. We went from girlfriends to Domme and sub. I really appreciated her doing this - because we don't have the same relationship as Master Wolffe and I, it was very helpful to me to have that kind of dividing line. I always respect her and do anything she asks of me, but the cuffs clearly said that now we were assuming different roles and that changed the way I reacted and the way I was tuned into her...it's hard to really explain.
The past weekend when I visited as a surprise for Ms Kat she did the same thing. Saturday afternoon when we began getting ready for play time she had me put the pink cuffs on again. When I did, my focus changed. I didn't wear them as long this time due to what the first part of our play involved, but even wearing them for a short time helped me begin reacting to her a little differently and made the bondage she did later all the more powerful.
Even when Master Wolffe has me wear my cuffs it makes a difference for me. I'm always his sub. I'm always awaiting his command and always at his beck & call. But when I wear my cuffs for him I am more deeply aware of it. I feel like a kept pet, something to be restrained (even if only symbolically as the unconnected cuffs do) and decorated for his pleasure. It doesn't mark a change in roles for us, but it does make me feel more submissive.