On reaching out from pain

May 07, 2012 02:16

Suzy Q. asked Wulf to marry her.

Tuesnight, on the way home from work, Wulf stopped by to visit Suzy Q. Suzy was feeling sad about a friend who has breast cancer, so was pleased for some company. Suzy had had a little wine, and perhaps a little more wine. We talked for a while before Suzy made the unexpected proposal. Wulf, taken off guard, could only explain what Suzy already knew, that Wulf is yet married (in a merely legal sense) to Starlight. Wulf had to leave before the matter could be resolved.

Suzy has been engaged three times, but has never made it to the altar. Wulf well understands that Suzy is a woman who greatly values independence. Wulf's confusion was great and worry extreme, for such a thing could damage a treasured friendship.

We finally found time to talk again today. Wulf started by gently offering that he would not think ill of Suzy Q. if she wanted to step back from the whole marriage thing. Suzy, perhaps a little abashed, explained that she does not want marriage or even a boyfriend, and we were both relieved that our friendship would not suffer. We were able to say some things that had long been unsaid, things that wanted saying.

Our friendship will never be the same again; now it is even better.

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