"A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a Friend who sticks closer than a brother."
"A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a Friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Prov 18-24)"
"Make new friends, but keep the old;
Those are silver, these are gold.
New-made friendships, like new wine,
Age will mellow and refine.
Friendships that have stood the test--
Time and change--are surely best;
Brow may wrinkle, hair grow gray;
Friendship never knows decay.
For 'mid old friends, tried and true,
Once more we our youth renew."
"Without friends no one would choose to live,
though they had all other goods."
Here is how i feel about frienship:
Friendship is a topic that's dear to my heart, for I've always had a great number of problems with the whole concept. When I was young, our family moved regularly, so I never really learned how to be a friend on a long-term basis. I never had time to reach any level of comfort or security in a friendship. Add to this the great amount of fear that I have of people, and you get someone who had a very hard time establishing, maintaining, and nurturing friendships. The bottom line was that I didn't ever feel that people wanted to be around me--there was always something better that they'd rather be doing. So I didn't call someone and say "Let's go see a movie," or "Let's go bolwing tomorrow." I wanted to, but I never did. So I ended up being alone, wishing I weren't.
Even now I still carry that fear as a part of me, but I can show my caring in spite of the fear--I haven't gotten rid of it, but usually I'm able to work with it, recognize it, and deal with it on my terms, not its terms. It's not easy, though--there are still plenty of times when I feel I don't belong, when I feel that people would much rather be with someone else than with me.
But more and more I learn the value of those people who will stand by me through anything, and the value of standing by my friends through anything. More than anything else, I've learned to lower my expectations of my friends in one important area--I don't need constant affirmation that they consider me to be a friend. I accept that I am a friend, and I don't need to hear it to believe it.
Still, there are few people whom I would consider to be true friends. Part of that is due to the type of person I am. I'm not very extroverted, and I am somewhat guarded in my relations with others. But I've come to realize that's okay, and that's part of who I am. I would much rather have few good friends than many superficial friendships. But I also know now that if I want more friends, it's up to me to make them, and not up to them to come to me and introduce themselves.
If you're like I was and you want to have more friends, pick up the phone, or the next time you're talking to someone you'd like to be friends with, suggest a cup of coffee somewhere or a walk or something. You'd be surprised how many people would like to be your friends, if only you'd let them. If you're more comfortable with fewer friends, let that be and accept it. No matter what, it's important that we treat others with the dignity and respect that our best friends deserve, and eventually we'll be able to call every person "friend," whether we know them or not.
and thats the truth!
What is a friend? I'll tell you.
A friend is a person with whom you dare to be yourself.
Your soul can go naked with him.
He asks you to put on nothing, only to be who you really are.
When you are with him you don't have to be on your guard.
You can say what you think, so long as it is genuinely you.
He understands those contradictions in your nature that cause others to misjudge you.
With him you breathe freely.
You can avow your little vanities and envies and absurdities and, in opening them up to him, they are dissolved in the vast ocean of his loyalty.
He understands.
You can weep with him, laugh with him, pray with him.
Through and underneath it all he sees, knows, and loves you.
A Friend, I repeat, is one with whom you dare to be yourself.
love all of you
"Make new friends, but keep the old;
Those are silver, these are gold.
New-made friendships, like new wine,
Age will mellow and refine.
Friendships that have stood the test--
Time and change--are surely best;
Brow may wrinkle, hair grow gray;
Friendship never knows decay.
For 'mid old friends, tried and true,
Once more we our youth renew."
"Without friends no one would choose to live,
though they had all other goods."
Here is how i feel about frienship:
Friendship is a topic that's dear to my heart, for I've always had a great number of problems with the whole concept. When I was young, our family moved regularly, so I never really learned how to be a friend on a long-term basis. I never had time to reach any level of comfort or security in a friendship. Add to this the great amount of fear that I have of people, and you get someone who had a very hard time establishing, maintaining, and nurturing friendships. The bottom line was that I didn't ever feel that people wanted to be around me--there was always something better that they'd rather be doing. So I didn't call someone and say "Let's go see a movie," or "Let's go bolwing tomorrow." I wanted to, but I never did. So I ended up being alone, wishing I weren't.
Even now I still carry that fear as a part of me, but I can show my caring in spite of the fear--I haven't gotten rid of it, but usually I'm able to work with it, recognize it, and deal with it on my terms, not its terms. It's not easy, though--there are still plenty of times when I feel I don't belong, when I feel that people would much rather be with someone else than with me.
But more and more I learn the value of those people who will stand by me through anything, and the value of standing by my friends through anything. More than anything else, I've learned to lower my expectations of my friends in one important area--I don't need constant affirmation that they consider me to be a friend. I accept that I am a friend, and I don't need to hear it to believe it.
Still, there are few people whom I would consider to be true friends. Part of that is due to the type of person I am. I'm not very extroverted, and I am somewhat guarded in my relations with others. But I've come to realize that's okay, and that's part of who I am. I would much rather have few good friends than many superficial friendships. But I also know now that if I want more friends, it's up to me to make them, and not up to them to come to me and introduce themselves.
If you're like I was and you want to have more friends, pick up the phone, or the next time you're talking to someone you'd like to be friends with, suggest a cup of coffee somewhere or a walk or something. You'd be surprised how many people would like to be your friends, if only you'd let them. If you're more comfortable with fewer friends, let that be and accept it. No matter what, it's important that we treat others with the dignity and respect that our best friends deserve, and eventually we'll be able to call every person "friend," whether we know them or not.
and thats the truth!
What is a friend? I'll tell you.
A friend is a person with whom you dare to be yourself.
Your soul can go naked with him.
He asks you to put on nothing, only to be who you really are.
When you are with him you don't have to be on your guard.
You can say what you think, so long as it is genuinely you.
He understands those contradictions in your nature that cause others to misjudge you.
With him you breathe freely.
You can avow your little vanities and envies and absurdities and, in opening them up to him, they are dissolved in the vast ocean of his loyalty.
He understands.
You can weep with him, laugh with him, pray with him.
Through and underneath it all he sees, knows, and loves you.
A Friend, I repeat, is one with whom you dare to be yourself.
love all of you