Comments | writing_mombie: I don't want you to breast-feed!

writing_mombie

I don't want you to breast-feed!

Feb 19, 2016 22:34

Yes, my ex-husband actually said this exact sentence - and not only once, he said it several times.

(If you want to read the whole story, please search for #pandorasbox .)The whole topic became really important to him the bigger my belly grew ( Read more... )

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Don't throw out the baby with the water... anonymous February 19 2016, 22:36:53 UTC

There are so many issues with formula. Unless you drink like a fish, take drugs (prescribed or illegal) or have medical reasons that speak against breastfeeding you should always try and consult a lactation specialist if there are problems. Sure, kids grow up but they are far more likely to develop allergies, get sick or become obese later on in life.
At least get donated breastmilk if you have supply issues. Formula should be the last resort. Also, I think bonding time is a huge factor in this. It takes way longer to breastfeed than to feed with a bottle. So I understand that some women have issues with the time they have to put in. But this is also time with your LO that you never get back.
Not trying to make anyone guilty, I just want to encourage you to try. There are TONS of women that struggle but there are also great support systems and a lot of good advice out there nowadays.
My baby don't want none unless you got boobs, hun! ;)

RE: Don't throw out the baby with the water... writing_mombie February 20 2016, 07:30:41 UTC

As I wrote before: " Of course, there are many benefits of breastfeeding! Health (I hope that you vaccinate your kids though), bonding to your child and even the financial part. But I am sure that there are women that thought about it thouroughly and just don't have the possibility to breasfeed. For example, if someone is without a partner and has to go back to work asap. Of course, she could pump then, but this also takes its tie (believe me, I did it for months and each 2h when my twins were in the hospital). Yes, breastfeeding should be the first choice - but it should the woman's choice ( ... )

RE: Don't throw out the baby with the water... anonymous February 22 2016, 16:02:05 UTC

While I agree breast feeding is "the best," you really can't judge others unless you have walked in their shoes. There are MANY reasons why a woman can't breast feed. These are not because she is selfish or too lazy or it is inconvenient. Every woman that I know that had to stop breastfeeding tried EVERYTHING and reached out to EVERYONE possible. It's also not an easy choice to make because with stopping comes all of the guilt and fearfulness you are hurting your child. Getting donated breast milk is much harder than it seems. You are VERY lucky to have such a wonderful supply, but not everyone does. We all know breast milk is best but it's not always possible...I encourage you to think about the above before preaching.

RE: Don't throw out the baby with the water... anonymous February 22 2016, 16:03:35 UTC

I was replying to the "formula is evil" comment above ^^

RE: Don't throw out the baby with the water... anonymous February 23 2016, 12:00:17 UTC

Nobody said formula was evil. In fact I acknowledged that many women struggle. Never did I say it was because they were selfish or lazy- all things you added in. And you hardly know all women on this planet, do you?! You shouldn't generalize either for donated breast-milk as that varies in different locations ( ... )

RE: Don't throw out the baby with the water... anonymous March 8 2016, 00:55:08 UTC

formula is evil!!! guys heres a link from Health Canada : http://www.breastfeedingcanada.ca/documents/webdoc47.pdf

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