An open letter to the ladies...
Dear Ladies,
Despite my habitual anger issues, I grew up being "the nice guy", which, through all of my "pre-Wraith" years, equated to "the doormat guy". I still try to be the nice guy, only now I have something resembling confidence and the ability to say "no" every once in a while.
I want to share something with you about nice guys: you can talk to them about anything. You CAN talk to them about relationships. You CAN talk to them about your current boyfriends and your problems with them (mind you, if you previously rejected the nice guy, it tends to annoy them, as the fact that you're willing to stay with the ass-hats, but the nice guy wasn't good enough for you. Of course they'll never say anything, because they're your shoulder, but yea, it annoys them.), and you CAN talk to them about your ex-boyfriends and the pain of breaking up.
BUT, there's a line. It may be hard to find with some guys, but I'll tell you exactly where it is:
If you have rejected a nice guy (especially a recent rejection), all the above rules are still in play, BUT the one thing you may NOT do, the one phrase, the one question you must never utter to said nice guy is "people keep telling me to cheer up, and that I'm a good person, but if I'm so great, why doesn't anybody want me?"
No.
No. No. No.
You do NOT get to ask that. If you don't get why, then shame on you. But let me spell it out for you: you just called him nobody. No, shut up. That's what you did. You're TALKING to someone who wants you. You've got someone you want to right NEXT to you, you just don't want THEM. And by saying that "nobody wants you", you've basically said "you don't count". Like they're so insignificant that they don't even register in your mind as being a guy; and their feelings are just irrelevant.
You know, women spend so much time bitching about men, and talking about "the difference between men and women is that men always..." or "men never..." or "men just don't understand that...", all implying that we're insensitive, feeling-less creatures. Not true.
Do you know what the ACTUAL difference between men and women is?
It's not that we don't have feelings. It's that we don't get as much leeway to whine about them.