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Hello Twitter friends (you're not still following me, are you? I gave up Twitter years ago). If you're wondering why I'm Tweeting again; rest assured, it won't be a regular thing. Basically, I discussed this issue at length several times over social media. The comment I most received was "oh, well why don't you just make your own hashtag? Why don't you just make your own comments instead of getting mad at what's already been shared."
Well, first of all, why do men NEED to start their own hashtag? Why, when having a dialogue about something so horrible, that is encountered by both sexes equally (and yes, when you're talking about non-physical abuse, it absolutely is), do we need to assign the role of "villain" to one, and "victim" to another; and why is that every high-profile article on this except for one has made it a point to focus *entirely* on male-on-female emotional abuse?
Why can't we focus on the act itself, and how wrong it is, and how it affect *people*? Why does this need to be turned into yet another sex/gender issue? Feminists like to assure me that "feminism is about equality for *everyone,* yet when discussing issues that *affect* everyone, the only victims the movement wants to talk about is women, and the only perpetrators are men?
Second, there actually is a #MaybeSheDoesntHitYou hashtag. But the fact that people keep asking me this just illustrates the problem: nobody's talking about it. #MabyeHEdoesntHitYou is trending on Facebook, it's getting showered with support, it's on the cover of major news outlet sites, and what of #MaybeSHEdoesntHitYou?
It's treated exactly like male abuse victims are: at BEST ignored, at worst silenced, mocked, and labeled as "shit disturbing" for "stealing focus from the 'real' victims" because God forbid we talk about the reality of domestic abuse instead of just parroting the traditional narrative.
This is why men are so many more times more likely to not report their abuse.
So fine. Gauntlet throne, I'll make my own hastag posts.
Well, first of all, why do men NEED to start their own hashtag? Why, when having a dialogue about something so horrible, that is encountered by both sexes equally (and yes, when you're talking about non-physical abuse, it absolutely is), do we need to assign the role of "villain" to one, and "victim" to another; and why is that every high-profile article on this except for one has made it a point to focus *entirely* on male-on-female emotional abuse?
Why can't we focus on the act itself, and how wrong it is, and how it affect *people*? Why does this need to be turned into yet another sex/gender issue? Feminists like to assure me that "feminism is about equality for *everyone,* yet when discussing issues that *affect* everyone, the only victims the movement wants to talk about is women, and the only perpetrators are men?
Second, there actually is a #MaybeSheDoesntHitYou hashtag. But the fact that people keep asking me this just illustrates the problem: nobody's talking about it. #MabyeHEdoesntHitYou is trending on Facebook, it's getting showered with support, it's on the cover of major news outlet sites, and what of #MaybeSHEdoesntHitYou?
It's treated exactly like male abuse victims are: at BEST ignored, at worst silenced, mocked, and labeled as "shit disturbing" for "stealing focus from the 'real' victims" because God forbid we talk about the reality of domestic abuse instead of just parroting the traditional narrative.
This is why men are so many more times more likely to not report their abuse.
So fine. Gauntlet throne, I'll make my own hastag posts.