Here we go again looking for a ride
Andrew called me last night and made me realize something about all of this. We talked for all of five minutes, but it made a lot of stuff clear. Live journal is, as we have seen time and time again, a place of rotting carrion and hungry vultures. It is a place of public execution and maligned truths. It is a sanctuary for the misinformed to judge, and a temple for passive aggressive words.
After talking with Andrew I realized that this is the wrong medium for the discussions that take place. The right way to deal with problems is face to face, or at least over the phone. Where there is no anonymity, and there is no brooding.
Having come to this conclusion I will say that anyone who has been offended by my actions, who feels as if they have been grievously wronged by anything that I have done should call me (you should know where to reach me) and tell me. I have faith that you will do so when you feel that the time is right and comfortable. I will not have my words and actions skewed by those who aren't aware of the big picture, who live to criticize and who may not know how to deal with the problems they have with me or others.
Bruce, I think that you of all people should be aware of the harm that Livejournal can do. There were countless number of people broadcasting things about you that just weren't true. There still are. It's stressful and painful. These people didn't understand the nature of your and JMK's relationship. They didn't understand what you were trying to do, how you were trying to help. They stood far away from the situation and judged your actions with out knowing, I feel that you are, in a sense, doing the same thing. I will not publicly defend myself against your accusations, many of which (after the discussion I had last night) I find to be untrue.
You are obviously upset about the fact that your not on my friends list, and I think it's coming out at the wrong time, in the wrong way. The reason simply is that I was unaware of your new screen name until you commented on my post. I didn't know that you had a new account. Simple enough isn't it. No subliminal messages of not wanting to be your friend, no attempts to hurt you.
Since you see me as an egotistical "cad" who is only concerned with immediate sexual gratification I will ask you kindly to keep your nose out of my relationships with my friends. You end up opening more wounds than you heal with your paranoid over-dramatizations. Once again, if anyone feels as if they have been in any way wronged by me, talk to me and you will get either the apology or the explanation which you deserve. I will not conduct all of this through a man who lives misery, and breaths squalor. The facts are far to important in all of this, and there should be no room for obsfuscation and confusion.
After talking with Andrew I realized that this is the wrong medium for the discussions that take place. The right way to deal with problems is face to face, or at least over the phone. Where there is no anonymity, and there is no brooding.
Having come to this conclusion I will say that anyone who has been offended by my actions, who feels as if they have been grievously wronged by anything that I have done should call me (you should know where to reach me) and tell me. I have faith that you will do so when you feel that the time is right and comfortable. I will not have my words and actions skewed by those who aren't aware of the big picture, who live to criticize and who may not know how to deal with the problems they have with me or others.
Bruce, I think that you of all people should be aware of the harm that Livejournal can do. There were countless number of people broadcasting things about you that just weren't true. There still are. It's stressful and painful. These people didn't understand the nature of your and JMK's relationship. They didn't understand what you were trying to do, how you were trying to help. They stood far away from the situation and judged your actions with out knowing, I feel that you are, in a sense, doing the same thing. I will not publicly defend myself against your accusations, many of which (after the discussion I had last night) I find to be untrue.
You are obviously upset about the fact that your not on my friends list, and I think it's coming out at the wrong time, in the wrong way. The reason simply is that I was unaware of your new screen name until you commented on my post. I didn't know that you had a new account. Simple enough isn't it. No subliminal messages of not wanting to be your friend, no attempts to hurt you.
Since you see me as an egotistical "cad" who is only concerned with immediate sexual gratification I will ask you kindly to keep your nose out of my relationships with my friends. You end up opening more wounds than you heal with your paranoid over-dramatizations. Once again, if anyone feels as if they have been in any way wronged by me, talk to me and you will get either the apology or the explanation which you deserve. I will not conduct all of this through a man who lives misery, and breaths squalor. The facts are far to important in all of this, and there should be no room for obsfuscation and confusion.