ausmac
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wow_ladies
A small whine
I'm very fond of my Horde guild. By and large the membership is great; we are a social guild that does raid but not with any high level of intensity. However, there is a certain structure to the raids, within that social frame.
I have mostly enjoyed doing the raids, though we do have to take a fair few runs at a boss before we get it down. Mostly it has gone well and we have a lot of laughs along the way.
But last night I had a rather unpleasant jerk back to reality. We were making about our 4th attempt of the night to down Oregorger, and had all arrived back at the location after the most recent wipe. People were having their toons eat and drink etc and I messaged in chat that I would be back in a sec. I badly needed a drink and to wash my hands and face. When I got back, I found I'd been removed from the group.
To say I was upset was putting it mildly, and when I asked why it had happened I was told it was because I hadn't responded to two ready requests.
I guess the thing that made me angry was not so much being removed (raid leaders have to make decisions for the group and having one person hold back a fight isn't fair) - what made me annoyed was that it seemed a bit like the old Orwell saying, that all raiders are equal, but some are more equal than others. One of our other regulars has poor country internet reception and occasionally drops out, and we've waited around 5 mins or more for her to get back on. I was gone for no more than 3 mins, and felt fairly picked on.
After I'd calmed down I had a chat to the RL and he said he was sorry if I'd been upset, that he had impose these rules because people were causing everyone else delay, it wasn't personal (yeah, right, I'm fairly thick skinned but not quite that much) and I could have come back into the group after the fight. It seemed pointless to take the issue further since he felt justified, and perhaps he was.
But it didn't stop that sense of disappointment. I've really loved playing with these people and this has put a bit of a damper on it for me. I'm not young, I have physical issues that make raiding not as easy for me as it is for others, and I felt like I'd found a home.
I guess I just need you all to tell me to get over it and move on (:
I have mostly enjoyed doing the raids, though we do have to take a fair few runs at a boss before we get it down. Mostly it has gone well and we have a lot of laughs along the way.
But last night I had a rather unpleasant jerk back to reality. We were making about our 4th attempt of the night to down Oregorger, and had all arrived back at the location after the most recent wipe. People were having their toons eat and drink etc and I messaged in chat that I would be back in a sec. I badly needed a drink and to wash my hands and face. When I got back, I found I'd been removed from the group.
To say I was upset was putting it mildly, and when I asked why it had happened I was told it was because I hadn't responded to two ready requests.
I guess the thing that made me angry was not so much being removed (raid leaders have to make decisions for the group and having one person hold back a fight isn't fair) - what made me annoyed was that it seemed a bit like the old Orwell saying, that all raiders are equal, but some are more equal than others. One of our other regulars has poor country internet reception and occasionally drops out, and we've waited around 5 mins or more for her to get back on. I was gone for no more than 3 mins, and felt fairly picked on.
After I'd calmed down I had a chat to the RL and he said he was sorry if I'd been upset, that he had impose these rules because people were causing everyone else delay, it wasn't personal (yeah, right, I'm fairly thick skinned but not quite that much) and I could have come back into the group after the fight. It seemed pointless to take the issue further since he felt justified, and perhaps he was.
But it didn't stop that sense of disappointment. I've really loved playing with these people and this has put a bit of a damper on it for me. I'm not young, I have physical issues that make raiding not as easy for me as it is for others, and I felt like I'd found a home.
I guess I just need you all to tell me to get over it and move on (: