What am I to do?
Hello ladies, this is my first post here so I will intro myself and also the original reason I was posting. I main a level 85 healing priest, with a handful of 85 alts (mostly for professions now, but come MoP I might make one of them a main alt). I've played wow for 3 and a half years, starting out alliance in a small friendly guild of real life friends and moving onto a horde raiding guild when the original guild disband. The orginal guild leader quit the game for good and deleted all his toons. I have since been in 2 raiding guilds, both hardcore, the first disband in 2010. The second guild, whom I was with since 2010, disband earlier this year due to not being able to recruit to fill raids.
Anyways, that was my intro. After the last guild disband I quit the game for a few months. I was not only a raid officer, but also one who was there every raid, and there was no warning at all. It just happened so suddenly and I had suggested we run raid finder for a bit to at least gear up the people who needed upgrades. Oh well, didn't happen. So, I came back this past week and met this person in game who I healed Twilight heroics for, he is a tank. Now, before I go any further I will say that I have become very casual. I do my dailies, run the instances (normal and heroic) for the JP and VP each week, and do the LFR each week, other then that I don't play unless someone needs my help. Ok, back to what I was saying before.
The person who I healed for told me his guild was casual and would do heroic instance runs and really did not want any hardcore raiding or playing, and he asked me if I wanted to join. I thought about it, but I did infact join because from what he promoted, his guild was right up my alley. Casual and family friendly, allowing me time to manage real life and family events. Well, after being in the guild for almost a week, it is not casual at all. I came on one day to find I was made an officer and class lead. When asked, the gm said that he planned to raid 3-4 days a week for 4 hours each day. He then told me that Monday is PvP night in guild for RBGs and Arena, Tues/Wed/Thurs/Sun are raid nights, and Friday and Sat are days off.
Now, I came from a guild that had a similar schedule, but this is not what I wanted. He promoted something completely different and then after finding out my characters background started this whole 'hardcore' raiding thing. I am stuck with what to do, as I am way too nice to up and just /gquit on someone, but at the same time I wanted something casual. I am happy running my normal and heroics for the week, a LFR once a week, and doing my dailies. I am happy being with others who do the same, and also enjoy holidays and in game events (like making level 1 toons and running them all around in game). Silly stuff that is optional and that if you miss, or don't log in for a week, won't make anyone upset at you.
It is even so bad, this guy knows my alts name too, only one of them. When we first talked we were talking about alts and I didn't feel anything bad from this guy at all, but now I feel awkward. I didn't log on my main one day, and logged on that one alt, and he instantly whispered me asking why I didn't log on to my main and what was going on. I know I can just put this guy on ignore and should more then likely tell him that his switch in goals was not what I wanted to walk into, and /gquit, but I am too nice and don't want to hurt his feelings. I know I can heal raids, and I know I am good at it. I also know how hard it is finding healers for raiding guilds, but I just cannot commit to a raiding guild at this point in my life. What am I to do?
Anyways, that was my intro. After the last guild disband I quit the game for a few months. I was not only a raid officer, but also one who was there every raid, and there was no warning at all. It just happened so suddenly and I had suggested we run raid finder for a bit to at least gear up the people who needed upgrades. Oh well, didn't happen. So, I came back this past week and met this person in game who I healed Twilight heroics for, he is a tank. Now, before I go any further I will say that I have become very casual. I do my dailies, run the instances (normal and heroic) for the JP and VP each week, and do the LFR each week, other then that I don't play unless someone needs my help. Ok, back to what I was saying before.
The person who I healed for told me his guild was casual and would do heroic instance runs and really did not want any hardcore raiding or playing, and he asked me if I wanted to join. I thought about it, but I did infact join because from what he promoted, his guild was right up my alley. Casual and family friendly, allowing me time to manage real life and family events. Well, after being in the guild for almost a week, it is not casual at all. I came on one day to find I was made an officer and class lead. When asked, the gm said that he planned to raid 3-4 days a week for 4 hours each day. He then told me that Monday is PvP night in guild for RBGs and Arena, Tues/Wed/Thurs/Sun are raid nights, and Friday and Sat are days off.
Now, I came from a guild that had a similar schedule, but this is not what I wanted. He promoted something completely different and then after finding out my characters background started this whole 'hardcore' raiding thing. I am stuck with what to do, as I am way too nice to up and just /gquit on someone, but at the same time I wanted something casual. I am happy running my normal and heroics for the week, a LFR once a week, and doing my dailies. I am happy being with others who do the same, and also enjoy holidays and in game events (like making level 1 toons and running them all around in game). Silly stuff that is optional and that if you miss, or don't log in for a week, won't make anyone upset at you.
It is even so bad, this guy knows my alts name too, only one of them. When we first talked we were talking about alts and I didn't feel anything bad from this guy at all, but now I feel awkward. I didn't log on my main one day, and logged on that one alt, and he instantly whispered me asking why I didn't log on to my main and what was going on. I know I can just put this guy on ignore and should more then likely tell him that his switch in goals was not what I wanted to walk into, and /gquit, but I am too nice and don't want to hurt his feelings. I know I can heal raids, and I know I am good at it. I also know how hard it is finding healers for raiding guilds, but I just cannot commit to a raiding guild at this point in my life. What am I to do?