Another Thing I've had Enough of...

[wotan_tyger]

I have taken down my tutoring shingle, after having come to the conclusion that it really isn't worth the time or the hassle that it causes me. Of the seven contacts I have had in the past month, three of them were obvious honey traps from Law Enforcement looking for older men trying to hook up with underage girls, two were legit, but seemed to be

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[skylos]

We're all a product of our development and expectations in others.

Do you realize how much you react to other people when you're approaching and talking to them? Language, both verbal and (but mostly) body?

Do you know the difference between somebody who is confident and comfortable in who they are and exudes that in their interactions, vs. somebody who believes they need to conform and perform for fear of an unfavorable reaction?

The invisible sign is in your dynamics of interaction. The sign is the intuitive interpretation of your internal expectations.

I'm not saying its your fault, or that I hold it against you or anything - we all have traumas and experiences and emotions that have developed through our lives to get to where and how we are. In fact, I don't even care about that in the aspect of being a friend and caring about you.

Study the acting body language of the total wimp and loser skulking down the hallway at the school, vs. the comfortable slouch of the accepted jock twit. Both are a product of their experience, a series of events that developed to where they are at. But Also: The wimp shows his expectation by his body language, the jock shows his. People intuitively grab onto and fulfill the expectations that other people exude. The other students don't even need to know the history of either of them in order to recognize the role they are potraying.

Is there a way to change that? Not without working past the roots of the problem first, I suspect - unless you're a particularly good actor at least, with a clear image of what you want to portray.

Once again, there are a million reasons we are the way we are. Experience easily changes behavior and feedback from our behavior guides our future experience. In the end its merely the personal reaction/decision (before it goes too far) to the experience that determines if the change results in feedback into more positive results, or more negative ones. :/

Love you tiger!

[wotan_tyger]

Yeah, I've heard that. I've also heard that some people are hard-wired to be alpha, and their *job* is to take out the weaker members of the species.

At any rate, thank you for your kind words.

[skylos]

Heh, that is pretty much an instinct shared by most social animals, due to the fact that its a self-replicating (if not entirely productive) behavior. Ain't evolution grand? Just because we're human doesn't mean we don't have instincts. They're just less important other things. Mostly.