are we really still so old-fashioned?
While recovering from the hysterectomy I had last week, I've spent some time reading various web forums on issues having to do with recovery, and I've been stunned by how often I've run across a woman expressing concern over the fact that will be unable to "service" her husband for six weeks. And I don't think they're using "service" in a kind of mocking way.
Several women mention how frustrated their husbands are and ask whether they should go head even before the six weeks is up, as they don't seem to know what else to do. And some of the replies aren't much better: women very shyly suggesting that they maybe please their husbands with their hands, maybe while sharing the shower with him, but making it very clear that they are NOT suggesting oral sex. They also apologize profusely for mentioning anything "dirty" in the forum, even though they've described manual sex in terms that are as clinical as you can get.
What is wrong with our culture? How can married people not know a multitude of ways of pleasing each other that don't involve vaginal penetration?
I feel the same frustration whenever I watch a movie or read a book that contains characters who seem sexually dysfunctional, mainly because they're trying to from zero to the "main act" in about sixty seconds, with no warmup for either party. I find it particularly puzzling when a sexual encounter is deemed to be "ruined" because the man can't "get it up," as though that was the only item on the menu. Surely if the two people involved had more options to choose from, not only would at least one member come away with some satisfaction, the other member's member might wake up and get back into the action as well.
Whatever happened to the lost art of foreplay? For all our sexual freedoms in recent years, are we really still so old-fashioned? I feel sorry for the multitudes of women, and men as well, trapped in unsatisfying sexual relationships due only to misunderstanding what is possible.
Several women mention how frustrated their husbands are and ask whether they should go head even before the six weeks is up, as they don't seem to know what else to do. And some of the replies aren't much better: women very shyly suggesting that they maybe please their husbands with their hands, maybe while sharing the shower with him, but making it very clear that they are NOT suggesting oral sex. They also apologize profusely for mentioning anything "dirty" in the forum, even though they've described manual sex in terms that are as clinical as you can get.
What is wrong with our culture? How can married people not know a multitude of ways of pleasing each other that don't involve vaginal penetration?
I feel the same frustration whenever I watch a movie or read a book that contains characters who seem sexually dysfunctional, mainly because they're trying to from zero to the "main act" in about sixty seconds, with no warmup for either party. I find it particularly puzzling when a sexual encounter is deemed to be "ruined" because the man can't "get it up," as though that was the only item on the menu. Surely if the two people involved had more options to choose from, not only would at least one member come away with some satisfaction, the other member's member might wake up and get back into the action as well.
Whatever happened to the lost art of foreplay? For all our sexual freedoms in recent years, are we really still so old-fashioned? I feel sorry for the multitudes of women, and men as well, trapped in unsatisfying sexual relationships due only to misunderstanding what is possible.