introversion and polyamory

[wordygirl]

I've come across several forums for people who identify as introverts or specifically as INFPs and I'm surprised how often the topic of polyamory comes up. I'm also surprised by how often people will say that they couldn't possibly do poly because they are introverts. It seems to me that introverts are particularly well suited to poly

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[wordygirl]

Yes, well, there is that, although the internet sure helps! I've read that INFPs are vastly over-represented online, given that this medium suits us much better as a way to meet people and get to know them without the anxiety of social settings.

When I do go to an in-person social gathering, I often lament the fact that there isn't some way to check people's profiles before deciding whether or not to talk to them, because I don't want to waste time on small talk with someone I clearly am not compatible with! (and how can you possibly tell that based on appearances alone??)

I have connected with people through the internet who I probably wouldn't have looked twice at had I met them at a party, so I tend to stick to this as a fairly reliable screening mechanism.

Have you tried Salon Personals? I've actually met some really interesting people there in the few weeks since I joined, and most of them are open to unconventional ideas about relationships, even if they don't explicitly identify as poly. That's been interesting. (BTW, if anyone wants to try the service, let me know and I'll send you a referral; that way I earn more "points," which I can use to send messages to people. I'll just need your email address.)