Valentine's Day
Valentines day... the day most men hate. I mean, why would we like it? We have to buy shit (cards, chocolate, bears, flowers, jewelry etc. ect.), pay for dinner, dress up, play nice and all we get, if we're lucky, is sex (maybe) and if you get sex on valentines day, you can get sex some other time without presents, dinner, dressing up and being nice anyway!
But other than Hallmark making a bunch of money, what is this day all about really? Love? What is love all about really?
According to Dictionary.com love is:
-A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
-A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
-An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
-A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.
-An expression of one's affection: Send him my love.
So that's what dictionary.com says. But is that really love? Can you really explain love in words and not emotions? I've always thought that true love was something that didn't need a definition, that didn't need explaining. Just something you knew you felt, knew you had, something that you didn't have to justify. Once you get to the point where it becomes a definition, once you have to ask yourself "Why do i love", you dont truly love anymore. All sense of the emotion that is love is lost when you question it. At least, that's what i believe.
BUT, there are many kinds of love, which is why i put up the definitions. I dont even know if i have in fact had true love, i *might* have once before, but i dont know for sure. And that's what makes love so transparent. You never know until you know. And you can "love" multiple people, but you can (usually) only truly love 1 person. Love is so confusing, so transparent, so wanted, so hard to get.
So for the first time since 2003, I'm without someone on Valentines Day. Bad thing? Maybe. Good thing? For my wallet, most definetly. But i think that when i had someone, it sort of in a way trivialized the whole holiday, and now that i'm a alone (*sniff, sniff - tear, tear*...j/k, i'll be ok) I possibly appreciate the whole event more, I possibly appreciate it less than ever before. I have a week or so to make up my mind.
-Michael
But other than Hallmark making a bunch of money, what is this day all about really? Love? What is love all about really?
According to Dictionary.com love is:
-A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
-A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
-An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
-A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.
-An expression of one's affection: Send him my love.
So that's what dictionary.com says. But is that really love? Can you really explain love in words and not emotions? I've always thought that true love was something that didn't need a definition, that didn't need explaining. Just something you knew you felt, knew you had, something that you didn't have to justify. Once you get to the point where it becomes a definition, once you have to ask yourself "Why do i love", you dont truly love anymore. All sense of the emotion that is love is lost when you question it. At least, that's what i believe.
BUT, there are many kinds of love, which is why i put up the definitions. I dont even know if i have in fact had true love, i *might* have once before, but i dont know for sure. And that's what makes love so transparent. You never know until you know. And you can "love" multiple people, but you can (usually) only truly love 1 person. Love is so confusing, so transparent, so wanted, so hard to get.
So for the first time since 2003, I'm without someone on Valentines Day. Bad thing? Maybe. Good thing? For my wallet, most definetly. But i think that when i had someone, it sort of in a way trivialized the whole holiday, and now that i'm a alone (*sniff, sniff - tear, tear*...j/k, i'll be ok) I possibly appreciate the whole event more, I possibly appreciate it less than ever before. I have a week or so to make up my mind.
-Michael