Tell me truths, tell me sweet little truths...
In the course of a week, I play counselor countless times... And I'm thankful that so many people trust me with the intimate details of their lives.
I appreciate that trust, more than I do the gossip... (Although, to be honest, of course I enjoy the gossip, even if I can't share it.)
But in the course of that same week... I hear countless lies. Often, they're simply the lies we tell ourselves, slipping out... "It's not so bad." "You don't know him like I do." "I'm O.K." And occasionally, they're bigger lies... Lies of omission. Like a change of subject... silence... Or ignoring a question. And once in a great while... They're the real, full-out, no-holds-barred, lies. "We didn't do anything" "I don't do drugs." "I was safe" (But oddly enough, I don't mind these as they tend to be somewhat obvious, and are eventually contradicted.)
More often than not... I simply file these lies away... Because the thing about lies is, the truth almost always comes to the surface. There are VERY few lies that people take to their death beds. But between Point A and Point B... There's all this suffering and stress... This pent-up pain and unhappiness... Frustration... The feeling that, the lie makes you a bad person.
People are... who they are. And you can't get angry at someone for doing something you don't like, because they're not acting out of character, our understanding of what makes them tick is simply... incomplete. The flaw isn't in their actions, but in our expectations.
If you have lied to me... Chances are I already know the truth. I'm simply waiting for you to admit it. I've already forgiven you... Forgive yourself.
(Inspired by
pounce_de_leon and
direwolf23)
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Get it off your chest. What lies have you told me, yourself or others? What have you not said, that you wanted to? What do you want me, or simply SOMEONE to know?
I appreciate that trust, more than I do the gossip... (Although, to be honest, of course I enjoy the gossip, even if I can't share it.)
But in the course of that same week... I hear countless lies. Often, they're simply the lies we tell ourselves, slipping out... "It's not so bad." "You don't know him like I do." "I'm O.K." And occasionally, they're bigger lies... Lies of omission. Like a change of subject... silence... Or ignoring a question. And once in a great while... They're the real, full-out, no-holds-barred, lies. "We didn't do anything" "I don't do drugs." "I was safe" (But oddly enough, I don't mind these as they tend to be somewhat obvious, and are eventually contradicted.)
More often than not... I simply file these lies away... Because the thing about lies is, the truth almost always comes to the surface. There are VERY few lies that people take to their death beds. But between Point A and Point B... There's all this suffering and stress... This pent-up pain and unhappiness... Frustration... The feeling that, the lie makes you a bad person.
People are... who they are. And you can't get angry at someone for doing something you don't like, because they're not acting out of character, our understanding of what makes them tick is simply... incomplete. The flaw isn't in their actions, but in our expectations.
If you have lied to me... Chances are I already know the truth. I'm simply waiting for you to admit it. I've already forgiven you... Forgive yourself.
(Inspired by
pounce_de_leon and
direwolf23)
IP Address logging is turned off... Anonymous comments are enabled... All comments are screened with all anonymous comments being unscreened and Logged-In comments being unscreened unless you specifically say otherwise.
Get it off your chest. What lies have you told me, yourself or others? What have you not said, that you wanted to? What do you want me, or simply SOMEONE to know?