Biggest cause of conflict
It sounds paranoid, but I think that the biggest cause of conflict is when someone takes offense to something and never tells the offended what they did (They should know!) or how to fix things. Maybe the offended automatically assumes the offender is a jerk of some sort. We're all guilty of being on both sides at one time or another, but really, how silly is it? In some cases, the conflict is never resolved because the relationship is only a fleeting one, or it's a person that you seldom see. Other times, when you are stuck working with this other person, you just keep going on, though perhaps keeping the other at a distance. Perhaps you know that you said or did something that you probably shouldn't have, but you don't realize that they're still mad about it until months later, when they make a snide remark.
It's ironic that with so many methods of communication, people just don't know how to communicate. We educated people are trained to avoid conflict at all costs. Passive aggression becomes a way of life. Sometimes, I think the rather primal way of just beating each other up to solve a conflict is a more effective method.
Not everyone thinks the same way. Some people (like me) aren't sure what to say or do in certain situations, and when they say or do something unexpected, they might not know what to do, so they improvise. Perhaps they come off as jerks, but unless they are really bad people, they don't mean to. Maybe, as a matter of fact, they are still obsessing over the event months later, when you think they are horrible creatures.
Yes, I'm being incredibly vague - I just wanted to get something off my chest. I doubt that the person or persons that I am referring to will read this, but they potentially could, hence the vagueness. I'm too passive and shy about my mistakes that there is no way that I will actually confront them. I just hate to think that minor socially unacceptable words or actions have messed up friendships. I just suck at social interactions. Why do y'all think I'm such a recluse?
It's ironic that with so many methods of communication, people just don't know how to communicate. We educated people are trained to avoid conflict at all costs. Passive aggression becomes a way of life. Sometimes, I think the rather primal way of just beating each other up to solve a conflict is a more effective method.
Not everyone thinks the same way. Some people (like me) aren't sure what to say or do in certain situations, and when they say or do something unexpected, they might not know what to do, so they improvise. Perhaps they come off as jerks, but unless they are really bad people, they don't mean to. Maybe, as a matter of fact, they are still obsessing over the event months later, when you think they are horrible creatures.
Yes, I'm being incredibly vague - I just wanted to get something off my chest. I doubt that the person or persons that I am referring to will read this, but they potentially could, hence the vagueness. I'm too passive and shy about my mistakes that there is no way that I will actually confront them. I just hate to think that minor socially unacceptable words or actions have messed up friendships. I just suck at social interactions. Why do y'all think I'm such a recluse?