once again, i have discovered the kid lying directly to my face. there is indeed a NEW myspace account with his picture on it, updated early this morning
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I do have some strong opinions about this, but we dealt with a different type of teenager than just your average run of the mill guy. I still say that because he is not proving you can trust him, I'd pull the reigns back big time. I'd say grounding is in order if lying is being done repeatedly and once that's completed, SERIOUS restrictions on the computer until he shows that he can have integrity in what he does. Yes, you're raising him to make his own decisions, but you're also teaching him the value of integrity, character, and how to respect authority. My husband has this saying, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." I just feel that it is completely appropriate to have high expectations for your son in terms of simply following instructions, being honest, and avoiding placing crude content anywhere. It sounds like discretion is another lesson to learn if he's placing too much personal information out there. There's nothing crazy about you expecting that from him. You have my prayers and support as you and your husband deal with this. Good luck!
And I hope this in no way sounds degrading. I don't have a teenager son (even though we worked and lived with 6 at a time at the children's home), but I think some things that my parents did with me were very helpful in shaping character. They never had to do this, but I know for a fact that they had no problem with stripping my entire room of its contents and leaving me without a door, with a mattress on the floor if I continued to defy their rules. It wasn't the things they cared about. They just needed me to know that they were in charge and that they will be laying the foundation for me, not my best friends or the dude online that's so cute, or a quote in that funny commercial... anyway, too long... but you got me going! lol.
My husband has this saying, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." I just feel that it is completely appropriate to have high expectations for your son in terms of simply following instructions, being honest, and avoiding placing crude content anywhere. It sounds like discretion is another lesson to learn if he's placing too much personal information out there. There's nothing crazy about you expecting that from him.
You have my prayers and support as you and your husband deal with this. Good luck!
And I hope this in no way sounds degrading. I don't have a teenager son (even though we worked and lived with 6 at a time at the children's home), but I think some things that my parents did with me were very helpful in shaping character. They never had to do this, but I know for a fact that they had no problem with stripping my entire room of its contents and leaving me without a door, with a mattress on the floor if I continued to defy their rules. It wasn't the things they cared about. They just needed me to know that they were in charge and that they will be laying the foundation for me, not my best friends or the dude online that's so cute, or a quote in that funny commercial...
anyway, too long... but you got me going! lol.
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