Bullshit art war that got kit 'dropped'

[wolfie_d]

Kit’s post got her yelled at and ‘Dropped’ by you Kevin. I write here to say that I read her post before it was posted and offered advice so that it wouldn’t come off manipulative and condescending. She was honestly seeking advice to see if her opinion was wrong since she was being disagreed with so aggressively. She knows she can come off wrong

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Part 2

[metalkat]

There's a lot of assumptions and judgment flying around about my behavior, when I was being yelled at in Kevin's post for just that... all I can really think is that you please give me the respect you expect me to give you.

I said I'd drop the issue in his journal. If you read my replies I said "I won't discuss this here any longer" and "I'm dropping this here". I never said I was dropping it all together. Kevin expressed distaste to the discussion in his journal, I respect that it's his journal, so I dropped it in his journal. But, the issue did still nag at me and given the aggressive response I was concerned with my own behavior. I went to D, because I respect and trust his opinion, and asked him what to do. He suggested making a post in my journal to get a open opinion from unbias and unconnected people because many people on my journal are also artists. I didn't want it to come off wrong so I had him read the post first, he edited and rewrote the entire post... most all of that's there was written by him so any issue Kevin has with it is an issue he has with D's writing more than my own... which I'm sure is what prompted this post by D as well (he being, understandably, defensive).

The post, again you are welcome to come read, does not have anything Kevin said quoted in it. It does not have his name in it. I deliberately kept all of that out of it because it's NOT about Kevin despite what you or he may think. It states a friend asked for pictures of his friends, male and female, in nothing but underwear to further his artistic technique and it continues with my thoughts and a quote of MY reply, and nothing else. I did not put anyone else's replies in there and I did not put my other replies because it would have forced me to quote others. I wanted to keep the post *about me*, my response, my behavior, and what I did... what I should have done different and if my thought son it were so skewed as others seemed to think. I think if you read the post you would see this clearly... I'm truly surprised Kevin took it the way he did, please do let me know if you wish to be added so you can read it and come to your own conclusions... nothing has been edited in there and otehrs can attest to that.

I deliberately kept it not about him or you and most of the comments screened are ones that were directly about him or you, and not me or my thoughts/behavior. The ones not screened are because I was told to unscreen them or they did not attack you or Kevin. That's the whole motivation, reasoning, and everything behind it.

When speaking though, now, of actions and how they are perceived. How should I take the fact Kevin "dropped" me by banning me from his journal so that I can't comment... and yet keeps me on his friends list? So to the public it seems he did nothing (they can't see he banned me) but to me I know I am, essentially, dropped off his list and I assume, from his life? What was his reasoning behind this? It did truly confuse me but I didn't want to jump to conclusions or assumptions on it so I just let it go. But, it does, to a reasonable person... seem that while I'm being accused of being "sneaky" for keeping something public and not behind his back... he's doing things that otehrs can't see/know and it comes off unusual to me. I already stated I would not comment in his journal about such things, out of respect to him and his journal, there was no need or reason to ban me unless he wanted me gone... in which case why allow me to read it at all? It is rather confusing.

In any event, I hope that this (long) reply gave you what you wanted... either reason to attack or reason to understand, take from it what you wish. I am sorry for any upset I caused you or Kevin, but the post was truly about me and for myself, had nothing to do with Kevin in the long run... while I understand the reasons and feel it's regrettable, he took it completely wrong.

Kevin, if you are reading this, I hold no ill will toward you and if you wish to discuss anything with me please feel free to Email me. If you do wish to "drop" me, that's your prerogative and I will respect that as I have anyone else that has cut me off, I wish your life well and I'll be here if you ever need me.