say what? (mandatory 'gfy' post)
Alright, so I need to get this out of the way before I continue typing my Amazingly Long Commentary of Angels in America, which is, as the title suggests, long as fuck.
Today, one mister Zachary Quinto posted this very touching video for 'It Gets Better'/Trevor Project, basically telling GLBT kids that yes, it does get better eventually. Once I was done blinking tears out of my eyes I checked the source, in this case being the ONTD community. And now, well. I am pissed.
You see, it was apparently decided, without my knowledge, that being queer (and by this I mean anything that isn't heterosexual or cisgender) meant you had to claim it loud and clear. Because, of course, equality implies that you'd have to state what you are if it's anything but the "norm", just to, you know, make it clear to everyone. So of course that makes Quinto a "closet case" because he hasn't addressed the issue directly. Of course, being 100% involved in a shitload of GLBT causes without explicitly stating your sexual orientation is the same thing as pretending you're straight when you're not. I mean, it's clearly what the guy is doing, right? Not like, just living his life and simply not addressing the issue, but denying his sexual orientation.
To which I say: lol wut?
Because to me, saying that "it gets better" implies that someday people will stop giving a fuck about shit like that. That you can just live your goddamn life without having to justify it with a label on who you date and who you fuck and how your brain is wired. It does get better, because there's an increasing number of people out there who give a damn about individuals rather than categories, and don't expect you to "come out" as anything, and don't freak out if you do.
When I was in high school I would look up to guys in bands who were probably definitely straight but never explicitly stated it under the premise that it didn't matter. Guys who had a girlfriend, or a wife, but openly spoke against homophobia like it was a personal issue they had been dealing with. Guys who'd hug, kiss and say "I love you" to other guys without adding "no homo" right after. And yeah, it's been about the whole thing being very attractive, the man/man thing I mean, and the androgyny thing, and the ambiguity thing - but before that, before the "pleasing aesthetics" aspect, it was about admiration towards people who had more guts than I did. It was about the idealistic concept of just being without having to clarify and explain and justify and analyze and fight dumb stereotypes.
So when I see little shits on ONTD complain that Zachary Quinto should "just come out already" and that his message - a very powerful message, I might add - has less impact because he's not "publicly out" to the media, I kind of want to take out my tiny Amok Time plastic weapon props and use them repeatedly punch them for entertaining the idea that if you're homosexual, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, transgender, bigender, genderqueer, etc. you have to state it loud and clear, otherwise it's "not legit". Of course we all want a Kathleen Hanna to look up to, and we have those, but it doesn't mean we have any business not respecting someone's choice to stay quiet about the gender of whoever they wake up next to in the morning. IT SHOULDN'T MATTER. At least that's what I think. And I shouldn't have to end this with "I'm not gay though" because, you know what? It's not anyone's fucking business. I'm done clarifying things to people who don't listen in the first place. Done.
I'm sorry, I just woke up from a five hours nap and still have a fever and all I ate today was a box (like, the full thing) of Sour Cream & Onion Pringles. The Internet suddenly seems like srs bsns to me, and I haven't written a proper gay rant in a million years.
(This would be a good time to find the gif of Reboot!Spock at the Vulcan Academy going "live long and prosper go fuck yourself", I think...)
Today, one mister Zachary Quinto posted this very touching video for 'It Gets Better'/Trevor Project, basically telling GLBT kids that yes, it does get better eventually. Once I was done blinking tears out of my eyes I checked the source, in this case being the ONTD community. And now, well. I am pissed.
You see, it was apparently decided, without my knowledge, that being queer (and by this I mean anything that isn't heterosexual or cisgender) meant you had to claim it loud and clear. Because, of course, equality implies that you'd have to state what you are if it's anything but the "norm", just to, you know, make it clear to everyone. So of course that makes Quinto a "closet case" because he hasn't addressed the issue directly. Of course, being 100% involved in a shitload of GLBT causes without explicitly stating your sexual orientation is the same thing as pretending you're straight when you're not. I mean, it's clearly what the guy is doing, right? Not like, just living his life and simply not addressing the issue, but denying his sexual orientation.
To which I say: lol wut?
Because to me, saying that "it gets better" implies that someday people will stop giving a fuck about shit like that. That you can just live your goddamn life without having to justify it with a label on who you date and who you fuck and how your brain is wired. It does get better, because there's an increasing number of people out there who give a damn about individuals rather than categories, and don't expect you to "come out" as anything, and don't freak out if you do.
When I was in high school I would look up to guys in bands who were probably definitely straight but never explicitly stated it under the premise that it didn't matter. Guys who had a girlfriend, or a wife, but openly spoke against homophobia like it was a personal issue they had been dealing with. Guys who'd hug, kiss and say "I love you" to other guys without adding "no homo" right after. And yeah, it's been about the whole thing being very attractive, the man/man thing I mean, and the androgyny thing, and the ambiguity thing - but before that, before the "pleasing aesthetics" aspect, it was about admiration towards people who had more guts than I did. It was about the idealistic concept of just being without having to clarify and explain and justify and analyze and fight dumb stereotypes.
So when I see little shits on ONTD complain that Zachary Quinto should "just come out already" and that his message - a very powerful message, I might add - has less impact because he's not "publicly out" to the media, I kind of want to take out my tiny Amok Time plastic weapon props and use them repeatedly punch them for entertaining the idea that if you're homosexual, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, transgender, bigender, genderqueer, etc. you have to state it loud and clear, otherwise it's "not legit". Of course we all want a Kathleen Hanna to look up to, and we have those, but it doesn't mean we have any business not respecting someone's choice to stay quiet about the gender of whoever they wake up next to in the morning. IT SHOULDN'T MATTER. At least that's what I think. And I shouldn't have to end this with "I'm not gay though" because, you know what? It's not anyone's fucking business. I'm done clarifying things to people who don't listen in the first place. Done.
I'm sorry, I just woke up from a five hours nap and still have a fever and all I ate today was a box (like, the full thing) of Sour Cream & Onion Pringles. The Internet suddenly seems like srs bsns to me, and I haven't written a proper gay rant in a million years.
(This would be a good time to find the gif of Reboot!Spock at the Vulcan Academy going "live long and prosper go fuck yourself", I think...)