Please explain...
Could come please explain to me why when you are feeling down about something people seem to love to tell you to stop worrying because they had it tougher or currently have it tougher. You are worried you may never afford to buy a house? Suck it up because they have trouble paying their rent. You are worried that a terrorist who has no issue blowing up tons of buildings may get an atomic bomb? Shove it up your ass because they lived though the cold war. All of it reminds me of the time when you were a kid and didn't want to ear your broccoli and you mother just reminded you that there were starving children in Africa or China who would be more then happy to have it. That trick didn't work when I were seven and it doesn't work now that I am twenty-seven. All that the person has done is gone from making me feel anxious and worried, to anxious and worried with a general feeling of being an ingrate or spoiled on top for a little more depression on what wasn't the best of moods. I am sure their intentions were good, but I have a hard time imagining what those intentions were. I mean, any person with the lest bit of empathy would not suddenly feel better being reminded of the greater suffering in the world. When picturing a person who goes to work whistling with joy thinking of the others who are so much worse then him, I get a picture of a person somewhere between Ted Bundy and Hitler.
My latest dilemma was a mix of my general worried about the planet and my carbon footprint and general consumption and if working in non-profit would ever let me afford a nice house and the ability to travel with some level of comfort, as well as a few worries here or there about terrorists in the middle east. The closest I got a reassuring comment was a friend responding to my fear that i will live long enough to see society totally crumble, by saying "have a bacon party and live to 95 instead of 100". I knew she was half kidding, half serious but it did give me a slightly more reassured feeling about life, there are some good things. Even my boyfriend had no words of advice and even instructed me to kill myself if I was so worried about my carbon foot print...Ok, well actually i suggested it when he wasn't giving me some sort of soothing answer and he just responded in saying maybe I should start a cult and encourage us to kill ourselves to protect the planet.
I am sorry that some people I know can't afford to pay rent OR move and I am lucky that I can currently leach off my parents, but telling me I should move to Iowa is really stupid and to me says you don't care about me as a friend. I tried to live some place else and it was a disaster so I am not exactly willing to leave the bay right now.
I think we need to start becoming a little more sympathetic to people...just some advice for the world as friends seem to be come more and more important when you need a couch to surf too or someone to give you a few bucks to help with the rent.
My latest dilemma was a mix of my general worried about the planet and my carbon footprint and general consumption and if working in non-profit would ever let me afford a nice house and the ability to travel with some level of comfort, as well as a few worries here or there about terrorists in the middle east. The closest I got a reassuring comment was a friend responding to my fear that i will live long enough to see society totally crumble, by saying "have a bacon party and live to 95 instead of 100". I knew she was half kidding, half serious but it did give me a slightly more reassured feeling about life, there are some good things. Even my boyfriend had no words of advice and even instructed me to kill myself if I was so worried about my carbon foot print...Ok, well actually i suggested it when he wasn't giving me some sort of soothing answer and he just responded in saying maybe I should start a cult and encourage us to kill ourselves to protect the planet.
I am sorry that some people I know can't afford to pay rent OR move and I am lucky that I can currently leach off my parents, but telling me I should move to Iowa is really stupid and to me says you don't care about me as a friend. I tried to live some place else and it was a disaster so I am not exactly willing to leave the bay right now.
I think we need to start becoming a little more sympathetic to people...just some advice for the world as friends seem to be come more and more important when you need a couch to surf too or someone to give you a few bucks to help with the rent.