I saw what you wrote in my question post so I know see a larger and more complete story than your question.
Since you asked it in my advice post, I am guessing you want some sort of advice or insight in what he said?
This is really all I can say: People who get married or stay with someone for a long period of time do it for all sorts of reasons. And I think those reasons change as we grow older. I hear that some people marry their SO because he is her best friend. Someone she can share everything with and feel comfortable. Then you hear that some people get married because they have exactly the same interests or hobbies. Some get married becasue they had a child together. Others get married because of religious reasons, family influences, and so on. So he married you because he wanted to protect you. While that is rather blunt and does not include that important word "love", did you ask him if he loved you? Maybe that grew with time. Maybe his intial reason was not what you wanted to hear, but you two obviously have a strong and deep relationship that works. You love him. I reall do believe that he loves you. Maybe that is not how it totally started, but that was so long ago. If you two are happy together and have found a way that makes you both happy, don't poke at it. Don't question it.
FOr your own piece of mind, you might want to ask him point blank if he loves you. Now. And focus on now because now is all that matters.
And I adore you and I am so glad that you are back in LJ. I had missed you greatly.
I asked.. just now actually. The answer was danced around to some extent. I mean.. he said yes.. But then he also said he believed that a person could have more then one soul-mate. (I have always felt this as well, but never voiced it because.. I dunno.. just didnt seem like a good idea or something.)
This led to more questions, and more answers, which led to even more questions and I feel more confused now then I did before I had answers.
Meh..
I adore you too, love. I apologize for being away.. I just needed to not think I guess.. cause when I think, this is what happens...
Since you asked it in my advice post, I am guessing you want some sort of advice or insight in what he said?
This is really all I can say: People who get married or stay with someone for a long period of time do it for all sorts of reasons. And I think those reasons change as we grow older. I hear that some people marry their SO because he is her best friend. Someone she can share everything with and feel comfortable. Then you hear that some people get married because they have exactly the same interests or hobbies. Some get married becasue they had a child together. Others get married because of religious reasons, family influences, and so on. So he married you because he wanted to protect you. While that is rather blunt and does not include that important word "love", did you ask him if he loved you? Maybe that grew with time. Maybe his intial reason was not what you wanted to hear, but you two obviously have a strong and deep relationship that works. You love him. I reall do believe that he loves you. Maybe that is not how it totally started, but that was so long ago. If you two are happy together and have found a way that makes you both happy, don't poke at it. Don't question it.
FOr your own piece of mind, you might want to ask him point blank if he loves you. Now. And focus on now because now is all that matters.
And I adore you and I am so glad that you are back in LJ. I had missed you greatly.
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The answer was danced around to some extent. I mean.. he said yes.. But then he also said he believed that a person could have more then one soul-mate. (I have always felt this as well, but never voiced it because.. I dunno.. just didnt seem like a good idea or something.)
This led to more questions, and more answers, which led to even more questions and I feel more confused now then I did before I had answers.
Meh..
I adore you too, love. I apologize for being away.. I just needed to not think I guess.. cause when I think, this is what happens...
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