ponderin things

[wisteria]

It's a lovely autumn day in Oregon...yet, when I am in this mood, I hole up and do things inside....when I know getting outside would solve some of the problems

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[robertainnc]

Our family is dealing with some similar stuff, trying to find a home for my Dad, my mom being convinced that there is some magical way other people must be paying for long term alzheimer's care that she just doesn't know about--but really, spend down to Medicaid (if we can even find him a bed in a facility that accepts medicare/medicaid) or private pay is pretty much all that's left. She doesn't want to burn through their savings--she does hope to pass some down for kids and grandkids, and also have money to live on herself--but she is so totally burned out as a caregiver. Honestly she is reaching the breaking point--your post reads like you reached it as well. I understand why families wait, but I also understand the relief (even when it means blowing through any and all savings) of finding a good home with round the clock care, and being able to let that role go. I am happy for you.

[msbyn]

I think you made the healthy choice for all of you. The right choice.

[freixenet]

Deb, I am so glad to see you posting and to hear your update. What a time you've had--I am sorry for all the stress you've been under. Caregiving is such a generous but draining act of love!

Happy to see you posting. I've missed reading you and have wondered what had become of you. When you get some time, do let us know what's up with the kids.

hugs!

[robertainnc]

I've also been wondering how your kids are doing. How's Mary doing?

[morty_baby]

You did the right thing with your mom, Deb. I was caregiver for both of my parents and both times, it ate a messy hole in my soul. I would love to hear how the kids are doing too. :)