Writer's Block: Love or be loved?
I think it is more than possible for a romantic relationship to be equal. In thinking about it, you realize that relationship is a uniquely suitable word. When asked "what kind of relationship" do you believe in, you really do have to ask what relations do you see people having? How do they relate? Well, I know that they can be equal, that two people can share the same relative positions. In fact, I would say that, if you don't feel equal, you probably don't have a true relationship. The catch is, though, that the equality can only begin to be achieved if you have trust and faith. Indeed, it's almost a catch-22. If you don't have trust, you can't love. I know the times that I have felt most in love or the most intense affection have been when I felt really (and safely) loved in return. This, for me, makes me only comfortable in equal relationships, in relationships where both people love each other equally. But, if I had to choose, I would certainly rather be loved more than be the one in the relationship that is loved less.
That said, when we talk about equality in relationships, we aren't really talking about equality of affection, are we? I mean, when you discuss compromise, etc., you are asking a slightly different question. My answer to that... would take too long to answer here, so I won't try.
That said, when we talk about equality in relationships, we aren't really talking about equality of affection, are we? I mean, when you discuss compromise, etc., you are asking a slightly different question. My answer to that... would take too long to answer here, so I won't try.