On broken trust (nymwars)
I have been in a relationship a long time. Today, I am pissed off at my spouse. But I know that it's a temporary pissed off, so whatever. The point is, being pissed off does not mean I am realistically planning on leaving him. I do not have plans for how I would kick him out of our current apartment, or tell the kids, or whatever. I have a plan for what to do if he is run over by a bus, but that's different. All of which is to say -- being angry does not equate to a broken relationship to me.
But last night, as I logged into Ravelry (wiredferret) and GoodReads (wiredferret@gmail.com) and LinkedIn ([legalname]@gmail.com), I thought about how I would go about getting a stable address that wasn't Gmail.
I haven't thought about it in years. I have had Gmail since, well, it seems like forever. Pretty soon after it came out. It was a killer app right when I needed it. But because of the stupid G+ shenanigans, and Skud's discovery that our theoretically separate gmail accounts are linked by the backup addresses, I am thinking about leaving. Or forwarding. Or not signing up to Amazon/monster/whatever with a Gmail account.
I am scared, and my trust is broken. I am doing the online life equivalent of looking at bank accounts to see if I can hire a divorce lawyer. I dunno. It's possible that Google and I will find some equivalent of awesome couples counseling, and patch things up, but I think it's time I had a secret bank account and an escape plan.
And I just got a shiny new Android phone, but perhaps that's a case of shared custody. I'm glad I downgraded off of G+ before I got suspended, given all the trouble Rainyday Superstar is having with her profile-free Android phone.
It's not going to be fast, or pretty, or elegant. It may end up not being necessary to do yet. But I have trouble imagining how Google will ever re-earn my trust. And really, it makes me sad. It's been a beautiful relationship.
But last night, as I logged into Ravelry (wiredferret) and GoodReads (wiredferret@gmail.com) and LinkedIn ([legalname]@gmail.com), I thought about how I would go about getting a stable address that wasn't Gmail.
I haven't thought about it in years. I have had Gmail since, well, it seems like forever. Pretty soon after it came out. It was a killer app right when I needed it. But because of the stupid G+ shenanigans, and Skud's discovery that our theoretically separate gmail accounts are linked by the backup addresses, I am thinking about leaving. Or forwarding. Or not signing up to Amazon/monster/whatever with a Gmail account.
I am scared, and my trust is broken. I am doing the online life equivalent of looking at bank accounts to see if I can hire a divorce lawyer. I dunno. It's possible that Google and I will find some equivalent of awesome couples counseling, and patch things up, but I think it's time I had a secret bank account and an escape plan.
And I just got a shiny new Android phone, but perhaps that's a case of shared custody. I'm glad I downgraded off of G+ before I got suspended, given all the trouble Rainyday Superstar is having with her profile-free Android phone.
It's not going to be fast, or pretty, or elegant. It may end up not being necessary to do yet. But I have trouble imagining how Google will ever re-earn my trust. And really, it makes me sad. It's been a beautiful relationship.