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[winterspel]

Ordinarily I like to take care of housekeeping first before I post, but I've realized that it's probably going to take me a lot longer to sort out my tags issue, so I might as well just post and tags be damned for the time being.

Comments

[winterspel]

I'm familiar with both: the idea of obligations, and also the idea that a woman would not work once she marries and would devote herself to her household/family. The reason this bothered me is because the reasoning for her quitting as a doctor is consistently tied to his illness (because he will need so much help), not to them marrying.

I don't know why her quitting as a doctor would be portrayed as such a big deal if it was expected once she married. In other words, it should have been quite normal for her and everyone else to expect that she would quit once she decided to marry - (does this mean that her friends and family would have had this strong, worried reaction about her job if she wanted to marry anyone?) - but instead, it is a huge problem.

And incidentally, how do her family/friends expect them to live if Shiki gives up her income and her future husband might have trouble finding other work?

On a related note, it seems rather pointless for a woman to spend all that time and effort (not to mention money) on becoming a doctor when society expect you to stop being a doctor once you marry, and ideally you're supposed to marry before you turn 30. It seems like a huge waste - and from what I've read lately, it's a waste that Japan can't really afford when they actually need qualified employees as the population increasingly retires.

[ginzarhapsody]

it seems rather pointless for a woman to spend all that time and effort (not to mention money) on becoming a doctor when society expect you to stop being a doctor once you marry, and ideally you're supposed to marry before you turn 30. It seems like a huge waste - and from what I've read lately, it's a waste that Japan can't really afford when they actually need qualified employees as the population increasingly retires.

I think you've hit it on the head - the collision between the traditional values and the needs of the modern today. But since this is a romance drama and not social commentary, it doesn't really go too far into it.

But I also think that maybe the feelings of Shiki's family and friends factor into it. Shiki's been aiming to be a doctor and everything since her mother passed away and she's been quite determined on this point. And when the important things in her life start to multiply - with the "heavy" burden of caring for Shunsuke and marrying him - it seems like they are worried that she's just that type of person who throws herself fully into whatever she does and so she herself would quit, rather than be forced to. I dunno. This is me spectulating a bit here, but I think that the big deal about Shiki and Shunsuke getting married isn't as heavily weighed in society's expectations so much as just the worries of her family/friends.

I think that was coherent. *chuckle*