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i started reading a book during the summer titled "the handbook to higher consciousness." it's a very appealing book with its hand drawn seascape sunset radiating from the cover and thin, comfortable shape. inside you'll find more fanciful artistic renditions including roses and a circle of hands. they also have a chapter fully devoted to sex.
now doesn't that sound like a book you'd want to read? well one thing i learned from it that always gets stuck in my head is this... there's a section devoted to teaching you to live in the "moment." here's an example they use to demonstrate such way of thinking (and this is what always gets stuck in my head).
suppose a man meets a woman that he is attracted to. if he does nothing but think of the moment when he can have sex with her (or reach sexual climax) then all of the experiences before that lose their significance or are at least dulled. in other words, stimulating conversation, laughter, or dancing all become means to and end instead of being appreciated at their own level of what we'll call "here and now-ness." thus, the man is not fully satisfied until he is able to engage in foreplay, then maybe sexual intercourse, and finally, sexual climax.
that above, is actually their main gist in my own pseudo-psychoanalytical wording. god, and when i'm drunk, THIS is always in my mind. the fact that i may be missing out on so much, because i have my mind occupied with one thing. so guys (and girls too, because apparently, girls are just as horny as guys as i've been told?) be wary of this! it can change your night!
now doesn't that sound like a book you'd want to read? well one thing i learned from it that always gets stuck in my head is this... there's a section devoted to teaching you to live in the "moment." here's an example they use to demonstrate such way of thinking (and this is what always gets stuck in my head).
suppose a man meets a woman that he is attracted to. if he does nothing but think of the moment when he can have sex with her (or reach sexual climax) then all of the experiences before that lose their significance or are at least dulled. in other words, stimulating conversation, laughter, or dancing all become means to and end instead of being appreciated at their own level of what we'll call "here and now-ness." thus, the man is not fully satisfied until he is able to engage in foreplay, then maybe sexual intercourse, and finally, sexual climax.
that above, is actually their main gist in my own pseudo-psychoanalytical wording. god, and when i'm drunk, THIS is always in my mind. the fact that i may be missing out on so much, because i have my mind occupied with one thing. so guys (and girls too, because apparently, girls are just as horny as guys as i've been told?) be wary of this! it can change your night!