I'm a sledge hammer.

[winhall]

I realize a lot of people are extremely self conscious about their bodies, mostly because our society seems to be obsessed with the idea that being even a little overweight is a catastrophe of nuclear proportions. I can see where that might put pressure on people, because "looking pretty" (and a very specific kind) is made out to be very important

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[winhall]

I do believe it's wrong to make fun of people because of their looks (or most anything, really, but especially something they can't do much about). And aside from friendly banter among friends I'd never do that.

But I hate it when people try and turn the meaning of what I said around, or make my statement about an issue it wasn't about in the first place. When I complain about the lack of girlie shirts, because XL looks horrible on me, that's really all I do. I don't imply everyone else is automatically better of, just because they're not thin or not a girl or whatever.
("One size fits all" only means that we all fit inside that big shirt. We might all look stupid, but it certainly fits, somehow.)

But yes, I guess it is better in the long run if people make it clear they're offended. Sometimes I think I need a little voice inside my head telling me that something I said was "a bit not good", because I often don't think things through. And I'm not above apologizing when I realize that what I said really was offensive and mean, whether or not I meant it at the time. It might just have been a missunderstanding based on how I picked my words, too.

But sometimes it's really silly little things that I don't feel justify being offended over. Sure, it varies from person to person and largely depends on their personal experiences in the past, but I can't walk on eggshells just because someone might have an issue about something.